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A New Episode will be telecast every Wednesday and Friday at 8.30 a.m

Salient Features

The program is essentially a studio based discussion between the anchor and the experts in the field of mental health. It includes inputs in the form of bytes from

general public as well as experts from different but related professions. Voice over narratives and case stories from real life will also form an important part in each

episode of the series. Each episode will also include salient points with computer graphics as a take home message for the viewers.

EPISODE DETAILS

Episode 1:

Curtain Raiser: Introduction to series

Telecast on: 21st July
Guest Expert: Dr. Avdesh Sharma

 

The mind is the centre of the universe. The world for us exists as we perceive it in our mind. To know and understand the world outside, it is important to first know and understand our mind. We must give some time to ourselves to delve into our minds to understand what is troubling us. Recognizing that a problem exists is the first step towards solving it.


There is no problem that does not have a solution along with it. We only need to look hard enough for it. Approach every problem with a step-by-step solution strategy and you will surely succeed in overcoming it.


Self-talk is important. Trust yourself, talk to yourself and make a plan of action to tackle the problem.
Remember, there is no agent of change in your life more potent than yourself.


Episode 2:

Stress – Its various dimensions

Telecast on: 23rd July
Guest Expert: Dr. H.K. Chopra

 

A healthy mind resides in a healthy body. The reverse is equally true. If the mind is ailing, the body can seldom function optimally. Stress is the biggest enemy of a person’s mental as well as physical health. It can give birth to or worsen all sorts of physical ailments such as hypertension, diabetes, asthma, cancer and even common infections and allergies. In addition, it can cause mental ailments such as depression and anxiety.


Stress is not a problem or an issue that exists in our lives, rather it is our body’s reaction to the problem that determines how stressed we are going to be. What one needs to understand is that problems, big or small, exist in everyone’s lives, it is how one deals with them that is an individual phenomenon. Each one’s experience or perception of stress may be unique depending upon several individual factors like his or her past experiences, personality, temperament, attitude, expectations and coping abilities.


We need to understand that the capacity to change lies in our hands. Stress management has become imperative especially in the context of the fast-paced and given-to-excess lifestyle that we lead now. It is all too easy to give in to negative methods of coping with stress such as smoking, drinking, drug abuse, compulsive eating, compulsive shopping, mindless relationships etc. These methods do more harm than good.

 

Self-discipline, a positive attitude and a regular healthy lifestyle that includes some form of relaxation techniques or activities are the best way to tackle the growing menace that stress has become.



Episode 3:

Stresses – It's manifestation in Society

Telecast on: 28th July
Guest Expert: Dr. Aruna Broota

 

Violence, hatred, anger, mistrust, apathy-all that we see around us in the society today is but a reflection of our minds in unrest. With stress levels at an all time high, given the current trends in lifestyle, it is no wonder that the repressed stress in individuals finds vent in society at large. All of us want the society to change, to become more peaceful, yet none of us wants to be the agent of that change.


We need to understand that each one of us can bring about a positive change in society. We must become the change we want to see in the world. We have to work on managing our individual stress better and devote some part of your time to make this world a better place for a few others. Sometimes that can work in reverse. If we do good, chances are we will end up feeling good too and our stress levels will decrease.


Even a small gesture of public service like cleaning your community area can have great positive impact on your well being. Someone else who understands this will try to make your life better too! Sit up, take action and set a positive example.

 

We are the community and the society, and the society is us. Once we understand that the two are no different, we will stop complaining about the regressed state of society and sit up and take affirmative action to change it.


Episode 4:

Stresses in Children at Home


Telecast on: 30th July
Guest Expert: Dr. Manju Mehta

 

Children are the foundation stone of upon which our society will be based tomorrow. And when that foundation becomes weak, the hope for a stronger society becomes bleak. It is a sad truth today that an increasing number of children are suffering from more stress than their young minds can handle, leading them onto problems both mental as well as physical. Parents are finding it increasingly difficult to deal with the problems that their children are facing.


The changing context of family is perhaps the biggest reason behind this growing problem. With families going increasingly nuclear, the norm of both parents working, single-child or single-parent families, rising divorce rates etc, the support system for the child is weakening. He/she usually finds no-one to turn to when he/she wants to talk.

 

Children are communicative by nature. We have to give them opportunities to communicate their joys, their sorrows, their needs and their fears without the fear of being judged.
If we can give them ample time, love, encouragement and a sympathetic ear without being overly critical, their stress levels are bound to decrease. Gone will be the days of temper tantrums, sleepless nights, sullen moods, isolation or a refusal to make friends, stammering or physical problems like headaches, allergies, asthma etc that are caused or aggravated by stress.

 

A healthy and active future for the child is in our hands, now.

 

 

   

Episode 5:

Stresses in children at School

 

Telecast on: 4th August
Guest Expert: Dr. Deepak Gupta

 

Children today face a lot of stress as far as their education is concerned. They face a lot of pressure from their parents, the school system and increasingly from themselves to excel in every aspect of their school life, whether it is academic or co-curricular. Parents create undue pressure on their child without realizing it. This can lead to several physical, emotional as well as behavioral problems in the child.
Parents must watch out for warning symptoms like mood swings, sadness, aggression and disruptive behavior in their child. If any of these symptoms exist and the child seems to be withdrawing from social life, it is time to pay close attention to him/her.


Parents also should stay in constant touch with their child’s teachers to be aware of their child’s performance and behavior at school. Teachers too can play an important role in a child’s experience at school. They can be the guide, the counselor and the friend. They need to watch the children under them closely to fulfill their true responsibilities as a teacher. If the child is being bullied, it can scar him/her and create confidence issues. On the other hand, contrary to popular belief, if a child is a bully, he is probably suffering from issues of his own that he is being unable to communicate. Such children need understanding and support rather than being punished or ostracized for being bullies. 

 

As for academics, parents need to understand that different children have different potential. While your neighbor’s child may excel in Mathematics, pay close attention, your child may have an exceptional hand at art and creativity that the former does not. Each child should be encouraged to live up to his/her potential and guided towards maximizing it with love and support rather than be forced to excel in something where his inherent interest does not lie. Many times children have to bear the yoke of their parents’ unfulfilled wishes in their own lives. Try not to be that parent who tries to live their life through their child. Appreciate your child as an individual in his/her own right. Re-evaluate what your child is learning from your behavior and try to be the role-model in your child’s life.

 

Each child is special. Treat them well and see them blossom into healthy and happy individuals leading successful lives.

 

Episode 6:

Stresses in Adolescents with Parents

 

Telecast on: 6th August
Guest Expert: Mrs. Sumati Ghosh

 

Adolescence, the transitional stage of development between childhood and adulthood, represents the period of time during which a person experiences a variety of biological changes and encounters a number of emotional issues. Adolescence can be a specifically turbulent as well as a dynamic period of ones’ life. It has been identified as a period in which young people develop abstract thinking abilities, become more aware of their sexuality, develop a clearer sense of psychological identity, and increase their independence from parents. This can be a great source of stress for both adolescents and their parents. It is a well known fact that adolescence is a particularly vulnerable age for a persons’ mental health, the sudden changes in the child and a lack of ability to understand and cope with them makes adolescents sensitive as well as vulnerable. Mood disorders such as clinical depression, bipolar disorder, and anxiety disorders can initially show in adolescence.


On the one hand the adolescent has trouble coping with the sudden changes in his/her body and mind, on the other hand the parents have trouble coping with the knowledge that the child who until recently depended on them to fulfill all his needs now no longer wants them around as much. While the adolescent is trying to forge an identity of his own it does not mean he wants to break away from the family mould completely. Parents must understand this and give their child enough space and freedom to come into his own without creating friction between the two parties. In fact, the adolescent will welcome some guidance on issues of growing up from his parents if they are communicated to him without imposing or demanding that they be understood.

 

Discipline can be another tricky issue between parents and their adolescent. Arguments about what to wear, how to talk and behave in public and curfew time are fairly common in all households that have an adolescent living in it. Lost tempers, broken things and slammed doors are just as common. This is an age where the child who accepted whatever was told to him is turning into a thinking and discerning individual who needs an explanation for why something needs to be done. Parents in their authoritative stance feel it is a challenge to their authority when the adolescent demands an explanation for an action. They must understand that the adolescent will welcome discussions on any issue and abhor imposition of any kind. He can easily be disciplined if the need for it is explained to him. Disciplining him in a democratic manner proves useful.

 

However, if the adolescent seems to be experiencing difficulty in coping and there are evidences of extreme and constant mood swings or aggressive and disruptive behavior, do not hesitate in seeking outside help for the sake of your childs’ health.


It is extremely important that communication channels between the two parties remain open. Communication must not shut down to shelter bruised egos on either side. Communication is a long term solution to all problems and starts with small steps.

   

Episode 7:
Stress in Adolescence with Peers

 

Telecast on: 11th August
Guest Expert: Mrs. Asheema Singh

 

Adolescence- the age that brings with it some very special charms and challenges. This is the age when the adolescent tries to develop into an adult, simulating adult habits and adult relationships. It is this need to develop their own relationships that makes the adolescent seek out the company of peers.

Peer relationships define the adolescents’ personality. They can be a source of great support for him or a mirror of his needs and insecurities; depending upon how equipped he is to deal with them.

Every parent dreads the confrontation with his adolescent about the amount of time the adolescent spends talking on the phone with his friends, the closed doors when his friends come over, the constantly changing fads of dressing, eating and leisure activities based on what is ‘in’ at the time (which roughly translates into what the majority of his friends are doing).

 

Media portrayals of the glorified Western lifestyle and increasing ease of access to alcohol, cigarettes and even drugs are putting adolescents under tremendous pressure to experiment with and indulge in harmful acts. To be part of ‘the gang’, smoking, drinking, dating, partying, thrill-seeking, drugs and sexual experiments may become the way to be for most adolescents. Heartbreak or rejection at this time often has major repercussions on the adolescents’ emotional and behavioral health if he is not taught to deal with such problems.

 

However, an adolescent cannot be denied his peer relationships. These relationships will prepare the adolescent to handle the various relationships he will have to form and maintain as an adult. Moreover, peers can also be a source of great support for an adolescent, giving him a non judgmental space to vent when he is troubled and encouraging him to perform better if he is struggling. Even as an adult, he will face new challenges and choices everyday, so keeping him totally isolated or protected from all
harm is not the way to go either. Life Skills education can play an important part in teaching the adolescent ways to cope with his challenging daily life. The self esteem of the adolescent is built separate from his peer acceptance or rejection, he is taught how to deal with tricky situations concerning substances and friends, he is made to develop and practice his assertive skills as well as
his critical thinking skills, dealing with criticism, the art of negotiation etc.

 

Life skills education program helps the adolescent to develop the skills of:

  • Critical Thinking and Creative Thinking
  • Problem Solving and Decision Making
  • Effective Communication and handling Interpersonal Relationships
  • Self Awareness and Empathy
  • Coping with Stress and Coping with Emotions

 

   

Episode 8:

Stress in Adolescence for Careers

 

Telecast on: 13th August
Guest Expert: Mrs. Pervin Malhotra

 

Career choices have become a major source of stress for adolescents today. Being confronted with a choice which may greatly impact the rest of their lives is a daunting task for adolescents who have tremendous pressures and expectations from their family and society to choose wisely, and often in accordance with their parents’ wishes. The stress of expectations from others and their own desire to choose well can sometimes baffle the adolescent and drive him into making the wrong career choice.
While it is true that at their age, adolescents are not fully equipped to choose what career they want to pursue for the rest of their lives, good guidance can at least lead them in the right direction. Not many adolescents know exactly what they want at this stage in their lives; many others are misguided by promises of financial success and popularity in certain careers even though they may not have the aptitude for it. Still others may know what destination they want to reach but may be unsure of the path they need to take to get there.

 

In this day and age when there are new and unconventional career options opening up everyday, it may be difficult to get sufficient and relevant information in order to make a suitable choice. Career counseling can be a great source of support in this case. A career counselor will take pains to determine an adolescents’ personality, aptitude and interests before short listing some viable options for him and then providing sufficient information to supplement those options.

 

Sometimes a person may choose a career only to later realize that he/she made the wrong choice, leading to great stress. They need to be made to understand that ones’ career is only one aspect of a person’s life and a wrong choice in career can be changed at any time in life. Sometimes a parent may push a child into a career he wants the child to pursue, occasionally pushing their child far too hard with severe repercussions on the person’s mental and emotional health. Parents need to understand that their role lies in guiding their childs’ life and not leading it. The episode focuses on equipping the
adolescent to make the right career choice and also living with or changing the choices already made.

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Episode 9:

Stress before Marriage

 

Telecast on: 18th August
Guest Expert: Dr. Ameeta Parsuram

 

Tying the marital knot seems to be an increasingly risky business to many a Gen. X couple. It is perhaps one of the most crucial decisions in one’s life. Youth today seem to no longer rush into solemnizing their bond with marriage vows at the earliest opportunity. They would like to systematically and meticulously weigh the pros and cons, the pluses vs. minuses, almost like they would evaluate products before making a major purchase.

 

It is not as if marriages earlier did not face crises that couples learnt to tide over. It is because in the present Age of Anxiety and Stress, relationships have become fragile like never before. It is extremely important to check compatibility between the two individuals who are taking the decision to marry. The ability to handle differences in personalities constructively is crucial to this partnership called marriage and depends completely on the individuals in question.

 

A lot of pre-marital stress for the young couple stems from the fear of commitment, fear of responsibility and also sometimes the fear of loss of independence. Different backgrounds and cultures of the two partners can lead to adjustment fears too. Clash of priorities and interests between the two partners, reluctance to get into domestic responsibilities etc can be other issues that contribute towards premarital stress.

 

The only real solution to stress before marriage is honest and open communication between the two parties and a willingness to offer reassurance and support to ones’ partner. The elders in the family can play an important role in this simply by letting the youngsters voice their fears and offer them sound advice from their own varied experience. In India, paying too much attention to the wedding ceremony and too little to the marriage and the couples’ internal turmoil is the mistake many a families tend to make.

 

Marriage is among the most important decisions of ones’ life but it depends upon oneself to look upon it either as a stressful experience or the start of a beautiful lifelong partnership.

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Episode 10:

Stress in Marriage

 

Telecast on: 20th August
Guest Expert: Ms. Gunjan Ryder

 

No marriage is without its share of issues and problems. A lot of times stress in marriages arises from the refusal of one or both partners to accept changes in their better halves. It is important to accept that change- in people, in circumstances, in oneself even- is inevitable. Acknowledging that nobody is perfect and being realistic about the qualities one expects in one’s partner is the first step towards positive growth in the relationship. A complete package of good qualities in one’s partner is an over expectation and can cause damage to the relationship. It is important to allow them their weaknesses and gently guide them towards working upon it rather than being overly critical and pushy.

 

Every marriage goes through its share of arguments. Arguments are fine as long as they do not lead to a break in communication. It is extremely important that communication channels between the two parties remain open. Communication must not shut down to shelter bruised egos on either side. Communicating with your partner with a focus on solutions rather than problems is the best way to handle issues, big or small, in a marriage. Communication is a long term solution to all problems and starts with small steps.

 

Open communication and mutual respect between partners is the basic foundation of a happy marriage where both partners are able to grow together as people.

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Episode 11:

Stress in Marriage due to Family

 

Telecast on: 25th August
Guest Expert: Dr. Bhavana Barmi

 

One major area of conflict in most marriages is the stress that couples face due to problems within the larger family context. Adjustment to the new family after marriage, esp. for the girl is a process and cannot happen overnight. The onus to make the new person feel welcome and be given support and time to adjust lies on the family.

 

As for the couple, respecting each other’s family of origin is an extension of the mutual respect required for a stable marriage. Each partner must approach the marriage with a appositive intent of extending their relationship to include the spouses’ family. It depends upon the couple to realise that a good relationship with their in-laws will only strengthen their marriage. If problems with the in-laws do arise, one would do well to treat the problems as one would with his/her own parents.

Despite problems or adjustment issues, giving love and respect unconditionally and giving to all post marriage relationships what one wants to receive from them will go a long way in helping one overcome any stress that the marriage could be facing because of family.

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Episode 12:

Stress due to extramarital relationships

 

Telecast on: 27th August
Guest Expert: Dr. Neeru Kanwar

 

In the new Indian society the changing social roles of increasingly independent women, changing social and moral values, societal permissiveness and a quick need for gratification have led many to seek satisfaction outside their marriage. The westernization of the Indian society has come as a heavy blow to the sanctity of relationships in our country. The permanency of marriage has watered down and marriage is no longer the sacrosanct institution it once was.

 

Even so, when one partner gets involved in an affair outside marriage, the impact on the other partner can be immensely traumatizing. Giving equal commitment to the marriage is the responsibility of both partners. The cheated partner can go through severe feelings of rejection and emotional pain. The erring partner needs to understand the hurt of the other and work towards healing it.

 

On the other hand, it is possible that a problem within the marriage led one of the partners to go astray. In that case, sitting down with the spouse and talking about what went wrong can help to resolve some pain. Forgiveness is the first step towards healing. Reestablishing trust, even though it is a slow process, is possible. It requires open communication and a lot of patience on the part of both partners, but it can help to save the marriage.

 

Instead of focusing on individual hurt, the process of healing will be comparatively easier if both partners reach out and try to help the other with a healing touch to start the relationship afresh.

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Episode 13:

Stress due to domestic violence

 

Telecast on: 1st September
Guest Expert: Ms. Suman Nalwa

 

We are witnessing an increased incidence of violence in the society today. Contrary to popular belief, domestic violence is not a lower class phenomenon alone. A striking number of people from the rich upper class too suffer from the malaise of violence within the confines of their homes.

Abuse can take various forms. Apart from the obviously apparent physical abuse there is emotional and even sexual abuse within marriages. Emotional abuse can sometimes be so subtle that the victim often does not realize he/she is being abused until it causes major damage to his/her personality and self esteem.

 

All forms of abuse are unacceptable within a marriage. Each person has to set a limit for what is acceptable to them and ensure nobody crosses that limit. It is important not to encourage or accept violence and deal with it in the beginning itself.

 

The victim of abuse can suffer from severe mental trauma apart from the obvious physical hurt. He/she can suffer from a loss of confidence, feelings of inadequacy and helplessness, deep frustration and constant fear of assault which can be potentially damaging in the long term.

Usually the victims of Domestic Violence do not share their experience for fear of shame and ridicule. It is extremely important to share your pain and hurt with someone close to you instead of letting it fester inside you.

If the violence continues despite one’s efforts to maintain peace, one need not remain stuck in the muck of it and ruin ones’ life. The victim can seek legal aid against the violent partner if the need arises. Enlisting support from well-wishers, ensuring legal protection and terminating the marriage are some important steps that the victim of domestic violence can take to disengage from the situation and move onto lead a healthy and happy life.

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Episode 14:

Stress due to divorce

 

Telecast on: 3rd September
Guest Expert: Dr. Vimala Lal


Indian society is witnessing a marked increase in divorce rates today. Gen X as a society has become more intolerant of marital tensions and more and more young couples are opting for divorce as a quick fix solution to marital discord. Sometimes individuals choose to end their marriage in a great hurry without considering the pain and trauma that the process of separation can bring.

Before contemplating divorce as a solution, the individual should make serious efforts to resolve differences with the partner. An important life-altering decision like divorce should not be taken in haste.

The process of divorce involves great mental, emotional and financial cost for the couple. Apart from these costs, the couple needs to be prepared for the emotional cost their children will have to pay for this decision. Anybody contemplating divorce must be prepared to face this. Sometimes partners use their children as pawns to get the better of their partner which can damage or distort the childs’ personality and/or his lifelong take on relationships. Involving the children in the bitterness of the divorce procedure is unavoidable but must be minimized as much as possible.

 

It is very natural to get sucked into the negativity of the process and end up feeling like the victim which in turn only increases the trauma that one is facing. It would be helpful if each partner evaluates what went wrong in the marriage and owns up to the role he/she may have played in it. This will greatly help in dealing with the bitterness one is feeling and will equip them to handle the external pains of the process better.

 

If the decision to divorce has been taken, do not feel sorry for yourself or doubt your ability to take decisions. Anybody can make a mistake, deal with your past and leave it behind to make a fresh start.

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Episode 15:

Stress due to Mid-Life Crises in Men

 

Telecast on: 8th September
Guest Expert: Dr. S.K. Khandelwal


‘Mid-life crises’ is a term being used increasingly today. Another word doing the rounds these days in ‘Male Menopause’. What is the truth behind these terms? There are many false notions that people have about mid-life crisis. Yes, this period of life can cause a great deal of physical as well as psychological strain on an individual, regardless of the gender but it depends completely upon the individual to look upon this time as either a crisis or an opportunity for rediscovering oneself.

Usually people find it difficult to cope with the physical changes that middle age brings with it. It is good to prepare oneself physically as well as mentally for the unavoidable changes that one will go though at this time.

 

Mid-life can be a good time to sit back and re-evaluate your life, your achievements, the choices you made, your weaknesses and also your strengths and use this analysis to your advantage to make your life more productive and also happier.

 

Men tend to keep quiet about the issues they face in middle age which can lead to decreased productivity and more negative coping with increased use of alcohol and tobacco. Overcome your hesitation, share your issues with your friends who may be going through the same problems as you. Seek the help of family when you feel the need.

If you feel you have achieved whatever goals you had set for yourself on the material front and you feel restless, spirituality can be a positive route to cope with and understand your life at this stage.

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Episode 16:

Stress due to Mid-Life Crises in Women

 

Telecast on: 10th September
Guest Expert: Dr. Smita Deshpande

 

As discussed earlier, middle age brings with it a great deal of physical as well as psychological strain regardless of the gender. Women go through a more pronounced physical change in their middle age- menopause- which can be a very trying time for them.

 

While dealing with change can be stressful, one can take some easy steps to ensure that stress does not get the better of oneself. It is important for women to accept their physical changes and take good care of their physical as well as mental health. Very often women forget to take care of themselves in taking care of everyone else’s needs. They must spend some time and energy on themselves and pay attention to their own needs.

 

One of the biggest stressor in middle age is the feeling of loneliness that most women have to battle with. This feeling can then lead on to feelings of worthlessness and can even bring on depression. To ward off this evil, women should try to spend some time with their children. Developing new hobbies and learning new things like technology can help distract one from the discomfort one would be facing at this time. Also, seeking out people with similar mindsets for company can be a source of great support.

 

Talking out your issues with well-wishers can go a long way in helping you cope with the changes of middle age. Do not hide away your feelings and problems, make it a point to share them before they become bigger problems.

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Episode 17:

Stress in Elderly Living With Family

 

Telecast on: 15th September
Guest Expert: Dr. O.P. Sharma


For centuries we have venerated our elders in the family, accorded them high status, sought their guidance and regarded them as a source of wisdom for dealing with life’s problems. Today though, the degeneration in our society has slowly crept into our families and our elderly are no longer the venerated lot they once were. Even when living with their family they feel stressed, sometimes ignored too. The changes that old age brings with it tend to take them by surprise.

 

One needs to prepare for one’s old age in all aspects – physical, mental, financial, social and spiritual. It is important to keep some assets to yourself so you can be financially comfortable without having to ask for anything. It is a satisfying and empowering feeling to give to your children and their children. It maintains your status as a giver. You can give anything- money, material gifts, wishes or blessings, skills and time, so long as you are at the giving end.

 

A major area of conflict between the elders and the rest of the family are the intergenerational conflicts that arise due to differing social and cultural values. The elderly usually have a hard time coping with the rapid changes in the social fabric of their family, esp. in their grandchildren. If that is the case, spend time with your grandchildren and develop independent relationships with them. Do not impose your point of view on them. To avoid feelings of loneliness and dejection, keep yourself socially active; develop your own social circle and spend time with people of your age and interests.

 

Encourage two-way communication within your family; learn to listen even as you talk. Elderly persons living with family should consider their good fortune as compare to those elderly spending their old age alone and learn to grow old gracefully. They can reorient their lives to finding newer ways of relating to their family and community. Families too need to accommodate the special needs of the elderly and continue to care for them and include them in family matters as to not isolate them. Give them opportunity to feel productive by giving them responsibilities they can carry out. Spend time talking, listening to their problem and not dismiss them impatiently. Both sides can relate to each other in a spurt of give and take, sharing and caring to retain the family bonds with mutual healthy respect for each other.

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Episode 18:

Stress in elderly living alone

 

Telecast on: 17th September
Guest Expert: Ms. Anupama Datta

 

Our society today is a live with talk about our senior citizens being abandoned by callous apathetic families, their assets or properties being grabbed heartlessly or left to fight life’s battles alone in their most vulnerable period of their lives. Elderly people who live alone can end up feeling marginalized or isolated, being unwanted by family especially if there is inadequate communication with them.

 

If you have decided to live alone or have been forced to do so, make adequate arrangements for your financial security. Prepare yourself physically, mentally as well as emotionally and spiritually to live alone. Try to keep abreast of the latest communication technology to remain in touch with your family.

 

Make advance arrangements for help and support in case of a crisis. Elderly sometimes tend to isolate themselves and completely give up their social lives. This only increases the stress in their lives and poses more risk to their mental health. Groups can be a source of great comfort and support, do not isolate yourself. Spend time with friends and like-minded people, develop hobbies, lend your time and support to social causes. You need to understand that old age need not mean a total retirement from life, you can still make your life meaningful.

 

Elderly living alone by themselves need not despair. There are many avenues to improve your quality of life even while living along, provided they take initiative and networks with other older people in similar predicament. Today’s technology can help you reach out to others easily and seek help if necessary. These are the golden years wherein you can look forward to with a quiet contentment and a philosophical or spiritual attitude that can ensure your remaining years happy and peaceful. Count on yourself to keep you happy and be less dependent on others for it. Optimism and positive thinking are the keys to fulfilling years ahead.

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Episode 19:

Stress at Work

 

Telecast on: 22nd September
Guest Expert: Dr. Manoranjan Sahay

 

We live in stressful times and a major area where we face it is in our workplace. More and more men and women are struggling hard to cope with stress at work, to burdened and overloaded. Some are driven to nervous breakdown and even burnout. We accept that more people today at quite stressed out at work. But why have work places turned into unpleasant situation for some?

 

Sometimes it is simply the physical environment that adds a lot of physical discomfort leading to restlessness and eventually mental stress. Uncomfortable work environment such as noise pollution, poor lighting or ventilation, cramped spaces can make the experience of working stressful. Job characteristics such as work overload, late hours, pressing deadlines, night shifts, repetitive nature of the work, excessive traveling etc. that eat into one’s normal life can also be a cause of great stress to individuals. Negative coping mechanisms like smoking and drinking that do more harm than good are only too common among the working population.

 

There are easy steps that one can take beat work stress arising out of the physical environment. Identify why you are stressed at work. Workout simple, do-able ways to tackle the stressors. If your physical environment is stressing you out, make plausible changes to lessen your discomfort. Prioritize your responsibilities and stick to your time schedule to meet deadlines. Take short breaks between work, take deep breaths to relax and stretch your body at intervals to have more relaxing work experience. Try to look for a job and a workplace that is in tandem with your opinions and values.

 

Very often, people tend to put off all relaxing activities to the end of the week and drive themselves too hard all week long. Instead of putting off all relaxing and recreation to the weekend do something to relax every evening. It is extremely important to take time out for yourself.

 

One must remember that there are no quick fixes and one needs to work out choices and priorities to balance work with other aspects of life. Sometimes even after one has used all positive approaches to cope, has taken care of health issues and tried to make changes in the work environment there may be continued distress at work. It is probably time to quit and look for alternative better jobs. One must understand that work is only one aspect of one’s life and not the entire life. Eventually it is very important that we need to be well adjusted and happy in a job where we spend 1/3rd of our lives, and give our best to our work and family.

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Episode 20:

Stress at work-Interpersonal

 

Telecast on: 24th September
Guest Expert: Dr. Sujatha D. Sharma

 

In our increasingly competitive times, it is only natural that workplaces are mirrors of our societal trends and conflicts. People tend to approach there workplace as just a place to earn money and sometimes end up feeling stressed owing to interpersonal tensions and difficult relationships at work. This not only affects their mental well being but also their work output.

 

Difficulties with an over-demanding boss; being burdened with too much responsibility or expectations; jealousies and extreme competitiveness with colleagues; uncooperative colleagues, defiant juniors, office politics etc are among the reasons why people can face unnecessary stress at work.

 

If one understands that people at the workplace can have different personalities, just like different members of the same family can and learns to accept people as they are, one would be much better off dealing with difficult people or circumstances at the workplace. Allow people their mistakes and you will see your relationships with your boss, colleagues and juniors improve dramatically.

Interpersonal tensions, at workplace or otherwise usually arise out of lack of proper communication. Learn the art of communication and develop skills to improve verbal and non verbal communication. Learning to be assertive and saying ‘No’ where required can take care of a lot of undue pressure at work.

 

Focus your energy on doing your work well so that you do not get pulled into wasting time and energy defending yourself if people try to pull you down. To avoid negativity on performance evaluation, ensure that you work on your skills to improve yourself. And if you are constantly criticized, try to look within yourself to understand the reason and change it. Finally, set limits of tolerance for hostile or undisciplined behaviors and firmly but politely confront anybody who threatens to overstep your boundaries.

 

Give to your work relationships what you want to receive from them. It is our collective responsibility to create a congenial and harmonious work environment and we can ourselves be the agent of change at times. People always tend to respond positively to friendly practices and limitations. Fight fair; keep away from unnecessary gossip and politics and you will see yourself working as a healthy happy person with increased productivity.

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Episode 21:

Stress of Working Women

 

Telecast on: 29th September
Guest Expert: Mrs. Abha Malhotra


Millions of women today are proudly managing their careers, shoulder to shoulder with their male counterparts in the work arena in different spheres. But behind this confident exterior there are women who are stressed out trying to cope in a male dominated world. Apart from the general stress of work that is common to both men and women, there are several other gender-specific issues that women have to put up with at their workplace.

 

Women have to manage multiple roles at home and work and end up feeling more stretched and over exhausted. Many working women may be single mothers with tremendous pressures of responsibilities of the children with no supportive facilities. Often, family members are unsupportive with male attitudes in particular being unhealthy and uncooperative. Women should communicate clearly to their family what support they want from them. Pre-empting crisis situations and dealing with probable issues before they become problems with the co-operation of family members can help soothe out a lot of tensions that working women face on a daily basis. Enlist the support of your husband or family members to share in domestic responsibilities.

 

Often women fall prey to their own expectations. In accordance with other’s expectations of them, they expect themselves to fulfill the responsibilities of a full time mother and wife without compromising on their performance professionally. Define yourself on your own terms as a mother and wife; do not try to do everything for everybody, there is only so much one person can do alone. Do not feel guilty for not being a superwoman. Have confidence in yourself, ignore negative comments and do not doubt yourself.

 

Working women should ensure that they are on top of atleast the factors that they can control to ward off work stress. Getting plenty of rest, taking care of their nutrition, getting adequate sleep, taking time out for relaxing activities are simple ways to ensure that stress does not get the better of them. Do not undermine your social and personal life trying to take care of your responsibilities. Take time out for yourself. Form support groups with friends and female colleagues who can help and offer emotional support.

 

Sexual harassment at workplace is something that seems to be happening more brazenly to women employees. Women must understand that sexual harassment is not acceptable under any circumstances. It is best to be prepared to face this phenomenon in advance. Women should know about their company’s policies on sexual harassment, complaint cells etc. for taking proper actions that have legal backing in case they have o face sexual harassment. Be firm and show a zero tolerance attitude at any attempt at harassment by male colleagues. Be assertive and fearless in confronting the harasser and challenging them. Form support groups with other female colleagues, do not keep silent about sexual harassment and make sure you are heard.

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Episode 22:

Managing Negative Imotions

 

Telecast on: 1st October
Guest Expert: Dr. Mohit Gupta

 

As humans we are highly emotional beings with most of our actions and behaviors being motivated by our emotional states. Our emotions have the power to control not only our mind but also our body. While positive emotions can make us feel physically elated, negative emotions eat into us, sap our energies and leave us feeling demoralized and depressed.

 

Negative emotions like fear, anxiety, panic, anger, insecurity, jealousy etc are among the worst enemies of our mental as well as physical well-being. They not only sap the energy required to handle an adverse situation but also compromise our body’s immunity. A fleeting negative emotion lasting a few minutes can affect the body for hours. Other than that, negative emotions cam also impact a person’s behavior, leading a person to indulge in harmful behaviors patterns such as impulsivity, paranoid reactions, hostility, aggression, violence, withdrawal and social isolation.

It is very important to manage our negative feelings and emotions before they eat into us and destroy us. Firstly it is important learn to identify and label the negative feelings. Check the reason for your feelings to see whether it is an external situation, person or you yourself. If the reason is external, communicate in a non threatening way and share your negative feelings. Express them verbally, do not keep them bottled inside-talking about feelings is very important. It is helpful if you try to evaluate the origin of your negative emotion and make an attempt to change it for total freedom from the emotion.

Alternative ways to distract oneself and manage one’s negative feelings such as sports and games, dancing etc and techniques of relaxation to calm the body and mind down like deep breathing, self

hypnosis, visualization, meditation etc are extremely helpful.

 

Cultivating acceptance for yourself and for situations is a long-term solution to rid oneself of negative emotions. Forgiving yourself as well as others for wronging you can help you go a long way to ensure negative feelings do not arise in the first place. Managing negative emotions is a life long process. There can be times when we cannot stop negative feelings from arising, but we can definitely manage them in a healthy manner to increase our feelings of well being and empowerment.

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Episode 23:

Art of Positive Thinking

 

Telecast on: 15th October

Guest Expert: Dr. Ruchi Shanker

 

Our thoughts and feelings are interrelated. Positive thoughts induce positive feelings and actions and negative feelings can create negative thoughts. Our thought processes and reactions to any given situation are determined by our past experiences and just as they can be learnt, they can also be unlearnt. Every situation can have many possibilities, the thought track your mind takes is a choice you make. Positive thinking is an art that can be cultivated. The episode explains some simple steps that people can act on in their daily lives to lead a more positive and consequently a more healthy life. If there are situations and problems in your life that you find inescapable, try to distance yourself from them. Distract yourself from your negative thoughts.  Resolve to clear out your emotional baggage and foster a sense of optimism about the present and the future.

 

Optimism has huge benefits for both psychological and physical health - it can even boost your immunity to illness. Keep your mind and body actively involved in something constructive or in activities that you enjoy to give yourself a break. Take an overview: tell yourself that this is one episode in your life and it will not last indefinitely. If possible, try to see humor in difficult situations. Indulge in positive self- talk, it helps to reiterate positive messages to yourself. You cannot change your past experiences but you can be better prepared to face the same situation in the future. It also helps to be around people with a positive outlook towards life. It can also help motivate one to strive to be that positive person for other people. Finally, it also helps to be grateful for the little joys of life, it helps to start ones’ day with a smile. Smiling is one of the simplest ways to cultivate a positive attitude.

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Episode 24:

Emotional Intelligence

 

Telecast on: 20th October
Guest Expert: Dr. Radha Sharma

 

A fairly new concept doing the rounds in business as well as social circles is Emotional Intelligence. Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions. Some researchers suggest that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened, while other claim it is an inborn characteristic. It is a form of social intelligence that can broadly be defined as the ability to get along with other people. While being different from Intelligence Quotient, it is equally important for success. It is now considered an important measure of how much a person is going to succeed when put together with other people. It assumes special significance in the professional field where working well with people is imperative. Our emotional intelligence develops with our social growth.

 

The episode talks about how one can increase one’s emotional intelligence to become a socially successful person. Self-awareness and self-evaluation are important for anyone to develop emotional intelligence. Core requirements for Emotional Intelligence are emotional balance, maturity and emotional competence. If ones’ emotions are going out of control, it would serve well to seek outside help to check them and have them under ones’ control for maximum advantage. Emotional Intelligence starts developing early in the childhood but can be worked upon and improved at any time in life. As for children, a positive attitude and encouragement work towards developing a child’s emotional quotient.


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Episode 25:

Abnormal Behavior

 

Telecast on: 22nd October
Guest Expert: Dr. Rajesh Sagar

 

This episode deals with the issue of Abnormal Behavior. It explains the difference between behavior that can be accepted as normal and that which is away from the realm of the normal. Broadly speaking, behaviors that create distress can be termed irrational and behavior that reduces one’s optimal biological, social and occupational functioning can be called abnormal. Abnormal behavior does not necessarily mean mental illness. While one may not be aware of ones’ own abnormal behavior, family and friends can be a good way to realize and check ones’ abnormal behavior. This sort of behavior is usually a cumulative result of the psychological and social factors acting on the person. Anybody, irrespective of age, gender, class and intelligence can behave abnormally. While it is not the same as a mental illness, to ensure that it does not hamper one’s maximum productivity and does not interfere in a person’s daily life, getting professional help to sort it out as early as possible is acceptable and can also be important.


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Episode 26:

Myths of Mental Illness

 

Telecast on: 27th October
Guest Expert: Dr. Alok Sarin

 

As a body of illnesses, perhaps no other form of illness is as misunderstood and as mystical in the minds of people as are Mental Illnesses. While physical illnesses are believed to have a tangible physical reason behind them, most people tend to ascribe supernatural causes to mental illnesses. Myths abound when one talks about mental illnesses. Phases of the moon and black magic are commonly blamed for what could be a chemical problem in the normal functioning of the brain. As with the cause, the understanding and treatment for mental illnesses is also usually biased because of lack of proper awareness regarding mental illnesses. A lot many people suffering from mental illnesses actually get worse because precious time is wasted in their apparent treatment by faith healers.

 

Another common misconception regarding mental illnesses is that they can be cured once the person suffering form them is married off. It will only increase their distress at having to deal with the stresses of the change unless the spouse and family is aware and supportive. This episode has sought to clear some of the myths surrounding mental illnesses and distress to create better understanding in people regarding them. It tells us that any person, regardless of age, class, gender and intelligence can suffer from a mental illness at any point in their lives. It also clears the myth that mental illnesses disable the person permanently, telling us that mental illnesses are treatable and early identification, proper and adequate treatment and support can lead to complete functional recovery from mental problems.


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Episode 27:

Stigma of Mental Illness

 

Telecast on: 29th October
Guest Expert: Dr. Nimesh G. Desai

 

Mental illnesses have always had a lot of unease associated with them in the Indian society. People suffering from mental illnesses are considered ‘weak-minded-, labeled ‘mad’ and generally looked upon with mistrust. All too often, families of patients hide the person’s illness from society for fear of ridicule and stigmatization. This attitude, while unhelpful, can actually cause further harm to the person’s mental health. Fact is that just as the body can get ill, so can the mind. And just as physical illnesses are treatable and do not render a person disabled, so do not mental illnesses. Mental illnesses do not occur because of a lack of willpower.

 

A person does not choose to get mentally ill and cannot ‘just snap out of it’ just as a person cannot simply snap out of a physical illness simple by willing it. Patients of mental illnesses can lead an otherwise normal and productive life if given adequate medical as well as emotional support. Negative attitudes towards people suffering from a mental illness are actually a violation of their human rights. In fact, people who have recovered from a mental illness can actually be more sensitive to the needs of other people. People suffering from a mental illness are considered dangerous only because of a lack of proper awareness on the issue among the Indian public. Even though India has cheap and easily available treatment for mental illnesses as compared to most other countries, it is the attitude of the Indian public that is generally more disabling for patients than their illness. It is for the same reason that India lacks proper facilities for rehabilitation of recovered patients which should ideally happen within the family and society rather than in exclusive care centers.


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Episode 28:

Anxiety

 

Telecast on: 3rd November
Guest Expert: Dr. Shiv Gautam

 

Worry and anxiety have become a part of our daily lives today. While worrying to a small extent is a normal condition, anxiety is that worry which is accompanied by certain physical components such as an increased heart rate, palpitation, trembling etc. that can cause obvious harm to the person’s health over an extended period of time. It is that worry which interferes with the productivity of our day-to-day life. It is discussed in the episode that worry, though a common enough reaction, is not a necessary aspect of our lives and can be curbed and controlled, even overcome. Anxiety can cause great harm to a person’s physical as well as mental health.

 

Sometimes the reason maybe internal emotional issues and sometimes the reason maybe external factors; the effect of both is just as harmful. While past experiences greatly shape our reactions to situations in the present and similar situations in the present can induce great anxiety, it is by no means unchangeable and permanent. In order to check and control situational anxiety, it is extremely important to look inwards and understand the reason behind it. Families can be of great support in helping individuals deal with their anxiety. A few positive methods that one can use on an individual level to check and control anxiety are yoga, meditation, regular exercise and an overall healthy lifestyle. A very negative trend these days is to try to control anxiety through negative coping methods like smoking, drinking, overeating etc. which can cause further harm to our health.


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Episode 29:

Fears and Phobias

 

Telecast on: 5th November
Guest Expert: Dr. Shweta Tandon

 

Fear is a normal feeling that most of us go through at some point or another in our lives. A little fear in dangerous situations is normal. But sometimes this fear can be intense and irrational and can start interfering with a person’s daily life, hampering optimum productivity, sometimes also leading to avoidance behaviors. This type of fear is called a phobia. Mostly, people do not understand how somebody can have such intense fear of what seems to him a harmless object situation or object. In fact, to the person suffering from a phobia, the fear is very real that can cripple him mentally as well as creating anxiety physically.  He cannot just snap out of it. But while fear can be learned through experiences, it can also be unlearned through a conscious effort. Medicines can help alleviate physical anxiety during therapy fro phobia. For complete recovery from phobia, it is important to deal with the negative thoughts and experiences associated with it. Helping people overcome their phobia by role-modeling and introducing them to the object/situation of their phobia in a relaxed environment can be very helpful. Families too can be of great support in helping people handle their phobias.


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Episode 30:

Depression

 

Telecast on: 10th November
Guest Expert: Dr. Sunil Mittal

 

A fairly common word in our day to day vocabulary today is ‘depression’. Most people use it to denote feelings of everyday sadness and are unaware that depression is actually a mental illness with real physical components. Most people wait for their ‘sadness’ to pass away and attribute it to some occurrence in their lives. Sometimes however, these feelings can interfere with people’s lives for months together. Factually speaking, feelings of sadness, listlessness, loss of sleep and appetite lasting up to two weeks are symptoms of depression. Depression as ns illness has both a mental as well as a physical component. While some people suffer from depression at some major turning point or stressful period of their lives, there are other who are genetically disposed to it; depression can occur in these people even without an apparent external reason. Adolescents, women, alcohol and drug addicts as well as people suffering from a chronic illness are more prone to get depressed. Depression is a silent killer and can be debilitating if not checked in time. It also decreases the body’s immunity making a person more vulnerable to physical illnesses. Psychotherapy as well as adequate social support goes a long way in helping a person emerge from depression and lead a normal, healthy and functional life.


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Episode 31:

Suicide

 

Telecast Date: 12th November
Guest Expert: Samir- A Volunteer with ‘Sumaitri’

 

Suicide is a major public health problem, with more than 100,000 people committing suicide in India every year. India alone contributes to more than 10% of suicides in the world. The suicide rate in India has been increasing steadily and had reached 10.5 (per 100,000 of population) in 2006 registering a 67% increase over the value of 1980. India has one of the highest suicide rates in the world and recent studies suggest about 40 percent are adolescents.


At least 125 people aged 29 years or below are committing suicide every day and 51 per cent of the total suicide victims are graduates, college students or younger. The media is choked with news of people attempting or succeeding at suicide everyday. Despite the gravity of the problem, information about the causes and risk factors is insufficient. In this episode, definite symptoms have been discussed that can be recognized well in time while the person is still contemplating suicide. Any person at any time in his life can have suicidal thoughts. If somebody around you or close to you is contemplating suicide, take it seriously. Sudden changes in behavior, distributing ones’ belongings, attempts to collect poison, rope or weapons that can be used to commit suicide are serious symptoms of suicidal tendencies. Serious loss in sleep and/or appetite as well as increased intake of alcohol can also be considered symptoms of contemplating suicide. What one can do when one knows somebody around is contemplating suicide is to ensure that the person is not left alone and not take a strict approach with him. Deal with the person with sensitivity and love and try to give them a ray of hope in their life, which usually deters them from their decision. Even simply listening to a person’s problems can lessen his ‘pain of living’, giving him hope to continue living. Also, dealing with stress well in time and consistent social support can go a long way in overcoming thoughts of suicide.


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Episode 32:

Obsessive Compulsive Disorders

 

Telecast Date:17th November
Guest Expert: Dr. Rajesh Nagpal

 

Many of us have occasional thoughts that bother us from time and time again. Usually we can check and control them on our own. But there are people who have keep getting the same thought over and over again and cannot check it themselves. This kind of thought, that starts interfering with a person’s normal thoughts and his life in general is called an obsession. Often, an obsessive thought brings with it physical and mental anxiety and people having it are led to commit an action repetitively to lessen that anxiety, this kind of repetitive, nonsensical action is called a compulsion. In the episode, the disorder of such thoughts and actions, i.e. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is discussed in detail along with ways to deal with it when the quality of ones’ daily life starts getting affected because of it. Obsessive thoughts are not a willful act and cannot be controlled by a person’s will alone. Neither obsessions nor compulsions can be shrugged away as a figment of a person’s imagination, they are real problems that do affect and interfere with the persons’ life. Also, the sufferer is not personally responsible for his problem and the general tendency of those around him to call him ‘weak-minded’ only adds to his stress and aggravates his problem. In fact, the fear of being misunderstood and ridiculed keeps most people from sharing their suffering with others and seeking help for it. The first and most important step towards tackling and OCD is to manage stress in a positive way. Treatment for OCD is a process that needs to be followed consistently but cannot be rushed. While a combination of Psychotherapy and medication is the best bet against an OCD, a person also needs full family support to deal with and fully recover from his illness.


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Episode 33:

Eating Disorders

 

Telecast Date: 19th November
Guest Expert: Dr. Sarath Gopalan

 

There exists a strong relationship between our mind and the food we eat. While a healthy eating pattern can definitely help in maintaining a persons’ physical as well as mental health, unhealthy eating patterns and/or dependency on food to fulfill emotional needs can disturb the mind. This is the root of a fairly recent type of mental disorder also called Eating Disorder. An eating disorder originates in a person’s afflicted psychology and expresses itself in his eating patterns, sometimes greatly affecting a persons’ physical health too. Parents should try to make eating a relaxing and enjoyable process for their child and not stress on being fat as a sign of good health. If the child has a normal growth rate for his age, they should not fuss too much about his eating habits. Moreover, parents must set examples of healthy eating before their children by inculcating the same eating habits that they want their child to follow. Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa are the two commonly found eating disorders, typically affecting adolescents. Females are more prone to developing them than their male counterparts. Anorexia is a body image disorder in which the affected individual views herself as being fat even though that may not be the case and consciously starves to lose weight. Bulimia is related to stress eating where a person uses binge eating as a method to alleviate or cope with stress and then tries to force the food out of her system by forcefully vomiting or ingesting laxatives. To treat an eating disorder, it is important to understand the reason behind the unhealthy eating pattern or needless and compulsive eating. For treating Anorexia, it is extremely important to help the affected person develop a positive body image. Psychotherapy has proved to be an effective way of dealing with eating disorders.


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Episode 34:

Psychosomatic Illness

 

Telecast Date:24th November
Guest Expert: Dr. S.C. Manchanda

 

The mind and the body have a strong relationship. A healthy mind resides in a healthy body and a body cannot be healthy if the mind is afflicted. It is a proven fact that mental distress can precipitate physical illnesses. These illnesses that originate because of a persons’ negative mental state are actual physical illnesses and are called Psychosomatic Illnesses. Treatment for these requires treating both the body as well as the persons’ mind. If a physical illness is not responding well to medication alone and the person is usually stressed, he could be suffering from a psychosomatic illness. Anxiety, depression and stress are known to hamper the body’s immunity to disease. Studies have shown that maintaining a positive mental state, laughing and helping others etc. can help increase a persons’ immunity. Caring for ones’ mind along with eating right and exercising regularly are the best ways to maintain good overall health. Learning to cope with stress in a positive manner from a young age can greatly help reduce a persons’ tendency to develop psychosomatic illnesses later in life.


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Episode 35:

Psychology of Pain

 

Telecast Date:26th November
Guest expert: Dr. R.K. Tuli

 

Pain is a relatively normal sensation that everyone experiences at in his or her life. It is also a very individual phenomenon, with different people responding to the same stimulus with different intensity of pain. The sensation of pain also depends a lot on the persons’ mental state at the time. A negative mental state can increase the sensation of pain and a positive mental state can alleviate the sensation. The episode talks about the psychology behind the sensation of pain and effective ways to deal with pain better. While pain can play a positive role of bringing ones’ attention to physical problems, chronic pain without any apparent physical reason can also be a symptom of anxiety or depression. Chronic pain can also lead to depression. Paying too much attention to pain and making it the most important aspect of ones’ life can actually increase the sensation of pain over time. Freeing oneself of negative emotions, inculcating positive thoughts, taking deep breaths, meditation etc are a few ways to reduce the intensity of pain and even eliminating it over time.


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Episode 36:

Sleep

 

Telecast Date:1st November
Guest Expert: Dr. Sanjay Manchanda

 

On an average, we spend two-thirds of our lives sleeping. Sleep is one of the most important aspect of physical health. When a person is physically or mentally troubled, sleep is one of the first activities to get affected. Likewise, proper sleep can put to rest mental distress and helps in alleviating physical problems as well. This episode talks about the importance of sleep and good sleep hygiene along with ways to cultivate it. Sleep is extremely important for physical rest and optimum mental activity. While the need for sleep and sleeping patterns re individual to each person, an average of 6-8 hours on an average are good enough for a person. The quality of sleep is as important as the amount of time spent sleeping. Today, peoples’ sleeping patterns are suffering given the changing lifestyles, leading to major mental and physical wear and tear over extended periods of time. Alcohol, tobacco, tea and coffee hamper sleep and medication induced sleep cannot match up to natural sleep in terms of quality. While problems in sleeping are among the first symptoms of psychological problems, insomnia is usually a symptom of other sleep disorders too. For optimum quality sleep, one must make an effort to sort out and put aside thoughts from the day before going to bed. It helps to be grateful for the day gone by and keep the hope alive for a better tomorrow.


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Episode 37:

Tobacco Addiction

 

Telecast Date: 3rd December
Guest Expert: Monica Arora

 

Tobacco usage is a major public health problem in India. According to World Health Organization country profiles, India has one of the highest rates of oral cancer in the world and rates are still increasing. This disproportionate incidence of oral cancer has been related to the high proportion of tobacco chewers, a habit unique to Indians. Oral cancer accounts for one-third of the total cancer cases and 90% of the patients are tobacco chewers. This is true across a broad spectrum of people, rich and poor, male and female, old and young. The statistics are eye opening. Only 20% of the total tobacco consumed in India is in the form of cigarettes, about 40% is in the form of bidis and the remaining 40% is consumed as chewing tobacco, pan masala, snuff, gutkha, masheri and tobacco toothpaste.  Shockingly, younger and younger children are being introduced into this habit. About 90% of all people who try tobacco once have a tendency to use it for extended periods of time. The habit has a high degree of social acceptability. But tobacco usage is harmful in all its forms. Every tobacco user suffers from the ill effects of tobacco usage in one or more of the following organs of the body- heart; stomach; muscular, nervous and respiratory systems. Besides, smokers put the health of their families and children at risk with their habit too. Breaking the habit of tobacco usage is a process that can be planned and implemented with 100% success. It is important that the decision to quit tobacco usage is taken by oneself; once the decision has been reached, help can be sought from various avenues, including professional. Upon quitting, the withdrawal symptoms only last from 3 to 7 days and can be easily managed with professional help. The most important factors in helping a person quit tobacco are will power and family support. Life skills education and awareness programs from a young age can prevent young children and adolescents from experimenting with tobacco.


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Episode 38:

Alcohol Addiction

 

Telecast Date: 8th December
Guest Expert: Neil Paul

 

Another socially rampant problem these days is that of increasing alcohol use and addiction. Alcohol is a toxic substance that can affect each and every organ in the body. Changing social norms, urbanization, increased availability and high intensity mass marketing along with poor level of awareness related to alcohol has contributed to increased alcohol use. Use of alcohol as a social drink as well as the myth that alcohol can be used as a medicine are encouraging alcohol dependency in the Indian society. About 10 to 15% of alcohol users develop alcohol dependence and become alcoholics. Anybody can become an alcoholic - age, education, intelligence or socio-economic status has nothing to do with it. The person increases the quantity or frequency and continues drinking even though alcohol causes problems to his health, work life, family or social relationships. But alcoholism is treatable. With treatment it is possible to give up drinking totally and live without alcohol. However, as with other diseases, the earlier the help is sought, the lesser the damage and the better the recovery. The physical withdrawal symptoms after quitting alcohol are temporary and can be easily managed. But even a single consumption of alcohol after quitting it can cause a relapse. To prevent a relapse, it is important for the person to learn the art of saying ’No’ to alcohol and be willing to change ones’ social circle if it encourages drinking. Moreover, family support is crucial to the process of de-addiction and relapse prevention.


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Episode 39:

Drug Addiction

 

Telecast Date: 10th December
Guest Expert: Dr. Gorav Gupta

 

Rising instances of drug abuse is one of the biggest public health problems these days, especially among the youth and adolescents. With most drug users being in the productive age group of 18-35 years, the loss in terms of human potential is incalculable. The damage to the physical, psychological, moral and intellectual growth of the youth is very high. Drug abuse is a complex phenomenon, which has various social, cultural, biological, geographical, historical and economic aspects. The disintegration of the old joint family system, absence of parental love and care in modern families where both parents are working, decline of old religious and moral values etc lead to a rise in the number of drug addicts who take drugs to escape hard realities of life. Drug use, misuse or abuse is also primarily due to the nature of the drug abused, the personality of the individual and the addict's immediate environment. The fast changing social milieu, among other factors, is mainly contributing to the proliferation of drug abuse, both of traditional and of new psychoactive substances. It has become imperative to create awareness about drug abuse in schools and through life skills education to prevent experimentation with drugs in children and adolescents. Apart from the usual drugs, sleeping pills and cough syrups are also commonly misused for their sedative properties. Some common symptoms that an adolescent is experimenting with drugs are sudden aloofness, lack of interest in academics, constantly changing social circle, general disinterest in most activities, increased and unexplained expenditure etc. Drug addiction is a family malaise and family support is extremely important to get out of the problem. What a drug addict needs, apart from professional help for de-addiction, is some meaning in his life, work, family and society to shift focus from drugs to rehabilitation. He also needs support and encouragement to fight his addiction.


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Episode 40:

Internet Addiction

 

Telecast Date: 15th December
Guest Expert: Jagdish Sadiza

 

A fairly new but increasingly common type of addiction being seen today is that of the Internet, which includes surfing, online shopping and gambling, social networking and watching pornography. It has sparked off a whole new range of psychological studies to determine its emotional, psychological and social implications. Internet addiction disorder (IAD), or, more broadly, Internet overuse, problematic computer use or pathological computer use, is excessive computer use that interferes with daily life. There is a subset of people who spend so much time online that they report problems in their personal, professional and social lives. The Internet, meant to be a tool for social communication, is fast becoming a tool for social isolation. Its over usage not only disturbs social relationships, it also disrupts normal cycles of eating and sleeping, sometimes even creating anxiety in the individual. Moreover, Internet Addiction Disorders can also make a person lose touch with reality and can make him vulnerable to manipulations by fake identities and relationships online. While parental guidance can prevent Internet abuse and addiction in children and adolescents, one can check his or her addiction on an individual level before it becomes a major problem. To overcome your addiction, limit your Internet usage to the bare minimum important work only. Keep yourself busy; spend time with family and friends to keep in touch with your real life and society.


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Episode 41:

Child Abuse

 

Telecast Date: 17th December
Guest Expert: Amod Kanth

 

Child abuse is the physical, sexual or emotional mistreatment of children. Most child abuse occurs in a child's home, with a smaller amount occurring in the organizations, schools or communities the child interacts with. There are four major categories of child abuse: neglect, physical abuse, psychological/emotional abuse, and child sexual abuse. Abuse of young children is a more rampant phenomenon than we care to admit. Both boys and girls are equally vulnerable to abuse. While an adult can express his or her reactions to abuse, a child does not have the adequate language to express it. The trauma of abuse runs deep in the psychology of an abused child, usually affecting the mind more than the apparent physical body. Abused children have a greater tendency than normal children to develop trust issues, usually ending up as either too dependent or too detached individuals. They generally have trouble forming normal, healthy relationships. They are also more prone to depression and addictions later on in life. An abused child will generally show some symptom like social isolation, unprovoked hostility and aggression, depression and bruises if the abuse is physical. But it would do well to remember that though children hurt easily, with the right amount of love and support, they could heal quickly too. Mental health professionals can be of great help in assisting abused children through Psychotherapy to overcome their trauma and lead normal, healthy lives.


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Episode 42:

Child Sexual Abuse

 

Telecast Date: 22nd December
Guest Expert: Anuja Gupta

 

Sexual abuse is one form of child abuse that a staggering number of young children are subjected to. It is an extremely sensitive yet important issue in child mental health. It includes a wide range of actions between a child and an adult or older child. Often these involve body contact, but not always. Sexual abuse can occur even without actual physical contact. Exposing one's genitals to children or pressuring them for sex is sexual abuse. Using a child for pornography or showing him pornography is also sexual abuse. Most abusers know the child they abuse. They could be family friends, neighbors, older cousins and sometimes even immediate family members. If the abuser is a family member, a common enough occurrence, the trauma of abuse for the child can be more intense. If not handled sensitively and in time, sexual abuse can cause severe damage to the child’s sensibilities. It hampers the child’s’ ability to trust and respect elders and can distort the child’s’ view on sexuality and relationships for life. It also makes the child vulnerable to depression and anxiety and/or leads him to consciously disconnect with the world around him. It also shows itself in the child’s’ unconscious sexualized behavior, poor self-esteem, eating disorders, substance abuse etc. The first step towards tackling sexual abuse of a child is recognizing it. Since it is an uncomfortable issue, almost always, parents and adults tend to disbelieve or dismiss the child if he/ she discloses abuse. It is extremely important to take the word of the child seriously and not encourage him to mask his distress. Make the child understand that being abused was not his fault and ensure that the child feels protected and safe. It is also extremely important to confront the abuser openly, even if he is a member of the family. Sometimes a child may require professional help to recover from the trauma of abuse. As a preventive measure, all parents must teach their young children ways of differentiating between right and wrong/uncomfortable touch and to reject any uncomfortable touch openly to ensure their child’s safety.


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Episode 43:

Behavioral Disorders

 

Telecast Date: 24th December
Guest Expert: Dr. Monalisa Palit

 

Children have the same emotions as adults but they do not have the same language to express those emotions, which is why they express them through their behavior. A little temper and stubbornness in young children is normal and all kids misbehave some times, but behavior disorders go beyond mischief and rebellion. With behavior disorders, the child or teen has a pattern of hostile, aggressive or disruptive behaviors for more than 6 months. The episode clarifies the distinction between bad behavior and behavior disorders. One of the reasons for a behavior disorder could be an inconsistent pattern of parenting. Children also tend to emulate their parents, so parents must ensure that their behavior is controlled around their child. If a behavior problem is not addressed in time, it can lead to the child seeking attention by negative behavior. It can also lead to conduct disorders and personality disorders in adolescence. There is much that can be done to help, however; the focus should be on a preventive approach, which is the key to maintain positive behaviors. A consistent approach when dealing with children with behavioral concerns most often leads to more productive and positive behaviors. It is highly recommended that you plan strategies that you can implement regularly. Whether the child is acting out, involved in conflicts, bullying, or being verbally or physically aggressive; it is important to ensure that you have positive interactions and that you refrain from calling the child 'bad', it is the behavior being exhibited that you are unhappy with and the child needs to know it is the behavior and not him/her. Acceptable and appropriate behavior is developmental - it happens over time and is greatly influenced by parental support and guidance, peers and previous experiences. Take a reward approach to encourage good behavior, praising the child each time you catch him doing something nice, instead of a punishment approach to bad behavior since children respond better to positive methods. Moreover, every child seeks an emotional bond and once provided one, this bond can ensure that the child is more receptive to discipline.


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Episode 44:

Hyperactivity

 

Telecast Date: 29th December
Guest Expert: Dr. Amit Sen

 

Everyone likes an active, naughty child. Sometimes though, a child goes beyond being active and becomes extremely restless, fidgety and temperamental. Too much activity and restlessness in a 6-7 year old may not be normal and if this behavior starts interfering with the normal development of the child, it can be a hyperactivity disorder. It is a common enough problem, with nearly 5% of all children being affected by it. Hyperactive children have a short attention span and have a problem following multiple instructions at one time. They are usually careless with their belongings and can be short on temper. Hyperactivity, if not checked in time, can lead to other behavioral disorders, low self-esteem, anti- social activities and other personality disorders. It is important to remember that neither the child nor the parents are responsible for hyperactivity disorders. It is created by some problems in the brain wiring of the child. Though accepting that their child is different from others can cause some grief to parents but it is an extremely important step towards correcting the problem. One of the most important methods of checking the problem is to provide creative outlets to channelize the child’s excess energy otherwise it can lead to destructive behavior. All children thrive in homes that provide routines, consistency and structure. Attention Deficit and hyperactive children especially need structure and schedules to feel secure in their surroundings. If at all possible, find a space in the house to designate as a relaxation space. It does not have to be a large space but it does need to be away from high activity areas. Promote self-esteem and confidence every chance you can. Also provide opportunities for the child to become responsible. When they take responsibility well, let him/her know. Communicate your expectations with a minimal number of rules and routines to be followed. Think big, start small. Involve the child when you are establishing rules and routines. Ask for his/her assistance. Make sure they repeat them - this will help them remember. Encourage the child to participate and monitor his own behavior. Hyperactive children can be very good at sports and other creative endeavors. Another important factor in normalizing a hyperactive child’s behavior is cooperation from schools, which need to be sensitized to take care of the special needs of hyperactive children.

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Episode 45:

Slow Learners

 

Telecast Date: 31st December
Guest Expert: Dr. Shanti Auluck

 

The episode deals with developmental disorders in children, with particular attention to intellectual weakness. Intellectual disability is a broad concept encompassing mental retardation (MR)—a generalized disorder characterized by significantly impaired cognitive functioning. Mental retardation has historically been defined as an Intelligence Quotient score under 70. It also signifies reduced functional skills in children as compared to other children their age. This disability occurs due to problems in the child’s growth and development. It causes the affected child to develop and grow slower as compared to a typical child. They take longer to learn a language, develop social skills and learning to take care of their personal needs. Its signs usually start showing in the child shortly after birth but can also be easily missed when the child is very young and become more obvious when he starts going to school and comparison with other children of the same age group becomes apparent. Dyslexia in layman terms refers to learning difficulties related to the written word. Dyslexic children are visual thinkers, so it's hard for them to understand letters, numbers, symbols or written words, which leads to problems with reading, writing, math and attention focus. The dyslexic child has average or above average intelligence - in no way is he "dumb", "stupid" or "lazy" or any lesser than any other typical child in any other way. In fact, dyslexic children usually perform very well in creative endeavors. While it is normal for parents to get disheartened if their child is intellectually challenged, it is extremely important that the child is protected from all negativity, including your own, otherwise his self-esteem can take a beating. Patience is the key when dealing with any dyslexic or intellectually disabled child. Dyslexic children can be helped out of their problem with patience and a lot of hard work. In the case of an intellectually disabled child, do not isolate the child from the mainstream society to keep his self-esteem intact and give ample love and encouragement for every little victory based on his needs and abilities rather than on your own expectations of him. As a society, a little sensitivity and respect for the dyslexic as well as intellectually disabled child can bring great encouragement and joy in their as well as their family’s life.


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Episode 46:

Self Esteem

 

Telecast Date: 5th January
Guest Expert: Parul Srivastava

 

Perhaps the most important aspect of a person’s personality development is his or her self-esteem. Self-esteem is a kind of life force that develops from ones’ opinion about oneself. It dictates our confidence; our interpersonal relationships and determines the quality of our daily lives. Though self-esteem develops mostly in childhood, it can be worked upon and improved at any point in life. People with low self-esteem get discouraged easily and do not realize their full potential. They are also more prone to falling prey to depression and addictions. To encourage the development of self-esteem, it is important to provide ample love and encouragement to the child for all his qualities. Refrain from getting too critical in pointing out the child’s mistakes. Point them out gently, with positive statements to encourage the child to improve upon them. Do not compare him or her to others, every person is different and it is unfair to stamp anybody based on individual judgment alone. To improve one’s own self-esteem, do not be too hard on yourself; everybody has faults, learn to forgive yourself for yours. Focus on your positive qualities and strategize and work on your negative ones. Limited criticism, ample encouragement and justified expectations from yourself and others help in improving self-esteem.


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Episode 47:

Life Skills

 

Telecast Date: 7th January
Guest Expert: Geeta Mehrotra

 

Life Skills Education is a fairly recent concept with increasing relevance in the current times full of stress and increasing social pressures. Life Skills includes a relatively small class of behaviors that are usable in many life situations. Life Skills are problem - solving behaviors that are meant to be used appropriately and responsibly in the management of personal affairs. Appropriate use requires an individual to adapt their behaviors to time and place. They help in developing positive, sustainable relationships. Although predominantly for adolescents, today adults too need to learn life-skills in order to cope with fast-changing social circumstances. And stress is only going to increase in the coming times; life skills can empower and equip one to deal with the demands of life better. Life skills also empower adolescents with the incomparable art of assertiveness and saying ‘No’, a skill even adults could do well to learn in these times full of negative enticements. In the face of loss of external controls, we have to strengthen our internal control. This is especially important for adolescents; we have to empower the resilience and coping mechanism of each child to help him or her deal with changes in external factors. Life-skills are the capacity that help one do that. There are five pairs of skills that are taught by practice to adolescents:

  • Critical Thinking and Creative Thinking
  • Problem Solving and Decision Making
  • Self-awareness and Empathy
  • Interpersonal Communication and Effective Communication
  • Coping with Stress and Coping with Emotions

Apart from these skills, certain other skills like assertiveness, reasoning, refusal ability, art of negotiation, dealing with criticism etc. are also taught in a life-skills program.


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Episode 48:

Study Skills

 

Telecast Date: 12th January
Guest Expert: Chandrashekhar

 

Academic education has become a headache today for children and their parents alike. Children are constantly complaining of an inability to concentrate and poor retention abilities. No two people study the same way, and there is little doubt that what works for one person may not work for another. Everyone is different, and for some students, studying and being motivated to learn comes naturally, while others have to apply themselves extra hard to achieve the same results. However, there are some general techniques that seem to produce good results. No one would argue that every subject that you have to take is going to be so interesting that studying it is not work but pleasure. Difficulty in studying only a particular subject is usually a psychological block that can be overcome with the right guidance. The key is to try to make studying a pleasurable experience since our mind tends to focus our attention on that which brings it pleasure. Everyone is different, and for some students, studying and being motivated to learn comes naturally, while others have to apply themselves extra hard to achieve the same results.  The most important study skill that a student can ever possess is planned and sustained studying throughout the year. Also, trying to memorize with the help of creative imagery is an effective method to retain what one has studied. This, however, is a process that needs to be practiced in the long term for best efficacy. Before you even begin to think about the process of studying, you must develop a schedule. The problem of when to study is critical. A good rule of thumb is that studying should be carried out only when you are rested, alert, and have planned for it. Last minute studying just before an exam is usually a waste of time and can never match up to the quality of year round studying terms of results. The place you choose to study should not be distracting. Distractions can build up, make choosing a good physical environment a part of your study habits. Make a little extra effort to relax before an exam because stress can cause you to forget even what you have already studied. Along with all the techniques of elective studying, adequate sleep and nutrition, drinking lots of water and taking frequent breaks while studying are simple and useful ways to increase one’s concentration. It would do well to keep in mind that despite working hard, if a child is unable to perform well, there could be a problem in the child’s mental development or he could be dyslexic.


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Episode 49:

Positive Parenting

 

Telecast Date: 14th January
Guest Expert: Geetanjali Kumar

 

All parents have needed a little advice now and then, but never more so than today. Parenting seems to be becoming a Herculean task for most parents. What was earlier a natural process now needs to be studied and consciously practiced. Many urban parents are attending parenting workshops and reading books on parenting. Effective parenting has never been more important to a family’s success than today. Proper parenting shapes the coming generations, and the way the next generation will behave, affecting the world around them. At the same time, there is no rule of thumb where parenting is concerned. The efficacy of a parenting pattern can only be determined by the effect it has on the child. No two children are alike, and so parenting techniques have to be modified and individualized to harmonize with the personality of the child too. However, there are a few simple tips on positive parenting that can be followed with general good results. It is important, firstly, to maintain the delicate balance between being your child’s friend and his parent. It does not work well to get either too authoritarian or too friendly with the child. Let him know who the boss is, but give him enough space and leverage to express his opinions and claim his individuality. Most parents get uncomfortable when their adolescent starts demanding privacy. With overbearing social lives and communication, privacy today has become the need for adolescents; parents would do well to respect that need. Effective parenting includes developing and clarifying clear expectations, staying calm in the midst of turmoil when your child gets upset, consistently following through with positive and negative consequences, being a positive role model, role playing corrective behaviors and lastly, praising your child for his behavior. Consistent parenting, with both parents sending out the same message to the child, is also important. Discipline must be taught by example and role-modeling. Do not expect your child to get to bed by 9 p.m. when you are entertaining friends at home until midnight. There must be a consistency in your words and actions when disciplining your child. Effective parenting includes developing and clarifying clear expectations, staying calm in the midst of turmoil when your child gets upset, consistently following through with positive and negative consequences, being a positive role model, role playing corrective behaviors and lastly, praising your child for his behavior. Do not communicate with your child only to lecture him or chide him for his mistakes or he will quickly learn to shut you out. Encourage an open two way communication between him and you. Do not try to tell him things with authority alone; try to do it with logic instead.  It is important that when your child or adolescent commits a mistake, you express it clearly that you reject the mistake and not the person. Also try to ensure that your reactions to his mistakes are justified. Effective parenting includes developing and clarifying clear expectations, staying calm in the midst of turmoil when your child gets upset, consistently following through with positive and negative consequences, being a positive role model, role playing corrective behaviors and lastly, praising your child for his behavior. Avoid getting over-involved with your child’s life, give him the space to become an individual with his own distinct personality.


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Episode 50:

Positive Psychology

 

Telecast Date: 19th January
Guest Expert: Dr. Girish Patel

 

Positive psychology is the study of human thriving. Instead of focusing on psychological dysfunctions—on people with mental illness or other psychological problems and how to treat them, Positive Psychology, by contrast, is a relatively new field that examines how ordinary people can become happier and more fulfilled. It shifts the focus from mental illness to mental well being, from recovering from negativity to cultivating positivism. We can go far with a positive approach towards life. We can heal anger, depression, anxiety, fear, etc solely by learning positive behaviors, responses, actions and strategies. Happiness is a skill too often taken for granted. You can maximize your happiness by learning a repertoire of skills that enable you to increase the frequency and strength of your positive experiences. Think about good feelings and positive experiences you have enjoyed. Make a list of those and give some time everyday to focus solely on them and recreating how you felt during the experience. You can learn skills to help you turn on or intensify those same feelings at will. It is not what happens, it is what you pay attention to and the way you interpret what happens that dictates your happiness response. So even though our thinking patterns and consequently our feelings are formed by past experiences, it is possible to alter the latter to change our thought pattern. Some aspects of life that positive psychology focuses on are happiness, pleasure, spirituality, self-efficacy, courage, humanity, altruism and hope. It is believed that these are feelings and actions that can be consciously practiced and following them leads to a positive mental as well as physical state.


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Episode 51:

Spirituality and Mental Health

 

Telecast Date: 21st  January
Guest Expert: Dr. S.K. Sama


There is a definite relationship between spirituality and mental health that even science concurs with now. Spirituality may be seen in a broad sense as the meaning and purpose that people seek within their lives, and it should ideally give to an individual, a sense of their own worth and value. The role that spirituality can have for people with mental health problems is being increasingly researched and discussed by healthcare professions and communities. Spirituality can help individuals to develop inner strength and peace, and places importance on hope and optimism. Spirituality is not tied to any particular religious belief or tradition. Although culture and beliefs can play a part in spirituality, every stress even during difficult times, more positive feelings, less depression and a greater resilience against addictions. People following spiritual practices have also been proved person has their own unique experience of spirituality - it can be a personal experience for anyone, with or without a religious belief. Scientific studies have proved that spiritual practices are linked to better health, less hypertension, less to have healthier and more positive relationships. The right spiritual practice leaves one feeling more energetic, positive and happy.


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Episode 52:

Values and Mental Health

 

Telecast Date: 26th January
Guest Expert: Najeeb Jung

 

The relationship between moral values and mental health has been long studied in psychology and has been scientifically proved. Values are an integral part of every individual. They generate behavior and add value to our lives. Being part of a culture that shares a common core set of values creates expectations and predictability without which a culture would disintegrate and its members would lose their personal identity and sense of worth. Values tell people what is good, beneficial, important, useful, beautiful, desirable, constructive etc. They answer the question of why people do what they do. There are different sets of values that govern any individual- individual or personal values, social values and universal values. Universal values are the values of peace, love, altruism, hope etc. and their importance remains constant with changing social circumstances. Individual values and social values however, are subject to change. Today, compromise of personal values to meet social demands has increased. There is friction and disparity between personal, social and universal values, in that an individual may be forced by circumstances to do something that is against his core values, is in accordance with popular social values but clashes with universal values. Such tension between values and compromise with one’s personal values can disrupt inner peace and create anxiety and/or depression in an individual. While personal values can only be controlled by an individual, social values are collective values which can be altered and strengthened. Empowerment of social values must begin on the level of the basic constituent of the society- each individual. Individual efforts alone can collectively lead to a movement to strengthen the degenerating moral values in society today. It is also important to educate children today both at the level of the family as well as in institutions about the importance of moral values through role-modeling and example. The onus lies on each individual to work towards achieving a stronger and healthier society tomorrow where universal values can be applied with ease and the tension between the individual and the society can be erased.


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Episode 53:

Aggression

 

Telecast Date: 5th May, 2012 
Guest Expert: Dr. Rajat Mitra

 

This episode is focused on various aspects about the Aggression. Aggression refers to behavior between members of the same species that is intended to cause humiliation, pain or harm. It highlights that:-

  • Aggression is not a natural instinct and nobody is born violent
  • Both genetic and environmental factors as well cultural conditioning combine to make a person aggressive
  • It is a myth that those people who are mentally disturbed become more aggressive. 
  • Children can grow up to be aggressive if they have not learnt how to handle aggression or channelize them properly. 
  • If aggression is not handled in a timely manner it can become an enduring aspect of one’s personality and ultimately interfere with our relationships and work.
  • Parents and teachers need to work jointly to help children learn appropriate ways of expressing anger.
  • Aggression affects not on the mental balance but also impacts the physical health of a person.
  • Angry and aggressive people can greatly affect the mental health of those living or working with them.
  • Aggression can be managed by de-escalation of tension and not provoking a angry person unnecessarily and learning to separate the person from his behaviors.
  • Techniques like mental distraction, relaxation and calming down techniques, visual imagery using peaceful images, meditation can help deal with habitual aggression.

 

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Episode 54:

Road Rage

 

Telecast Date: 12th May, 2012 
Guest Expert: Dr. Manju Mehta

 

This episode deals with the issues of Road Rage and how this situation can affect a person’s physical, mental and social health. Some of the salient points that have been brought out are: 

  • Road rage incidents are steadily increasing these days, especially in large cities and metros, as compare to small towns. 
  • More and more people are getting increasingly intolerant and impatient which is evident while driving also. 
  • Road Rage can be prompted by any number of major or minor triggers on the road by other people on the road.
  • Conflicts or tension at home or work can spill on to the roads when drivers with negative state of mind get provoked easily on the road.
  • Road Ragers are characteristically rude, angry, cynical intolerant, impatient and egoistic.
  • Driving when one is tired, hungry, overworked, or under the influence of drugs or alcohol makes one more prone to road rage.
  • Being in a tense and over aroused state and being angry on the road regularly can lead to health problems too.
  • When faced with a road-rager, it helps to stay focused on your driving and ignore the rager’s antics, and not get provoked into an argument or fight.
  • It’s important to check one’s behaviors while driving and be aware of one’s action while driving. 
  • If prone to road-rage while driving listening music also helps to keep your mind peaceful and relaxed.

 

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Episode 55:

Psychological aspects of Accidents

 

Telecast Date: 19th May, 2012 
Guest Expert: Dr Sushma Sagar

 

This episode deals with the issues of Psychological Aspects of Accidents. Lack of road discipline, intolerance and impatience makes us break rules at will, violating basic traffic norms and causing grievous accidents. Some points discussed in the episode are:

  • Road accidents are unnatural and it will affect our mind and body both.
  • An accident affects us in much more ways than we imagine. 
  • The unexpected and sudden nature of the accident worsens the impact of the trauma often leaving the person in a state of shock or numbness.
  • Recovery and rehabilitation is a long drawn out process that may stretch the coping resources of the person and the family.
  • Apart from medical treatment and the physical rehabilitation process, the victim may require psychological counseling. 
  • The family members need to be understanding and sympathetic and not push and hurry the patient. 
  • Constant encouragement and positive support can work wonders for the morale and self esteem of the person.
  • Empathic Family support will help to rebuild relationships that could also have got affected by the accident.

 

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Episode 56:

Disasters and Trauma

 

Telecast Date: 26th May, 2012 
Guest Expert: Major. Gen. J.K.Bansal

 

This episode deals with the issue of disasters and trauma. It discusses about the various aspects of disaster and trauma and how a victim copes with them and what happens to those who manage to survive such terrible, life threatening experiences. 

 

  • Any type of disaster affects both our mind and body. 
  • Surviving a severe disaster and trauma can leave the person feeling numbed, disconnected and extremely distressed. 
  • There are several factors that make one particularly vulnerable to trauma. 
  • It is very important to understand that the trauma victim doesn’t isolate or withdraw into himself. 
  • The impacts of man made disaster are more vicious, than natural calamities. 
  • It is important to take care of one’s health as a healthy body copes better with stress – rest, exercise, good nutrition and adequate sleep are mandatory.
  • A Counselor or Trauma Therapist helps the victim to recover faster from the negative impacts of trauma.
  • Recovery takes time but social support and spirituality are two major aspects that help to overcome fears and panic reactions associated with trauma.

 

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Episode 57:

Disabilities and Mental Health

 

Telecast Date: 2nd June, 2012 
Guest Expert: Dr Uma Tulli

 

This episode deals with the psychological issues related to persons who are disabled in some way due to being physically or mentally challenged. It talks about the various problems and challenges faced by a differently abled persons. It highlights that: 

  • Disabilities can occur in the form of physical, neurological, developmental or psychological impairments interfering with the functioning of those affected.
  • Differently- abled people are also an integral part of our society. They are people first and disabled later.
  • Disability can lead to frustration, hopelessness which is worsened when there is an attitude of non-acceptance by the family and society.
  • People with disabilities are just as likely as the general population to experience mental health problems. They may be even more likely than the general population to need and use mental health services.
  • Disabled persons should be treated with respect and their rights valued instead of insulting or pitying them. They should be give equal opportunities to participate in every aspect of life.
  • It is important for society to provide a barrier – free, socially accepting and inclusive environment for them. 
  • Society as a whole needs to show an accepting, caring, empathizing and supportive attitude that fosters educational, vocational and self actualization of the individual potentials of the differently abled. 
  • Parents of differently-abled children should accept their child’s disability, pay attention to the psychosocial problems of their children, and even consult a professional if needed.
  • We all can learn how to adapt, cope, hope and triumph from the attitude and the spirit of the differently – abled. 

 

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Episode 58:

Bereavement and Grief

 

Telecast Date: 9th June, 2012 
Guest Expert: Dr Reshma Agarwal

 

This episode talks about bereavement or grief due to the loss of a loved one. One of the tragic facts of life is facing an evitable death of someone we love, who has been close to us. The loss of life can be quite traumatic to deal with and can be emotionally incapacitating for some. Some of the issues focused on are:-

  • The process of bereavement or coping with loss can vary to different extent with different people but it’s important to realize that grieving for loss is a natural process. 
  • It is usually the period of grief and mourning after death that is a normal part of reacting to a loss. 
  • It can be mostly experienced as emotional or mental reaction such as sadness, anger, guilt or despair. 
  • The grief could also be generally much greater for the loss of a young child than for an older person who has lived a full life.
  • Grief reactions can be more intense when the death has occurred suddenly in an otherwise healthy person. 
  • The process of recovery from loss may take time and varied from person to person, especially from unexpected death.
  • If the process of recovery extended or affects life and work, then the mental health professional should be consulted. 
  • Family, Friends, colleagues at work, all play a huge role in guiding the person back from grieving to moving on in life. 
  • Spiritual practices like chanting, prayers, meditation also helps to re-start the process of living.

 

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Episode 59:

Coping with Chronic Illnesses

 

Telecast Date: 16th June, 2012 
Guest Expert: Dr K.K.Agarwal

 

At some point of time we all take our health for granted and do not realize what it means to be chronically ill. This episode deals with the Chronic Illnesses which discusses how having a long term illness that persists for years can disturb our life in many ways. The episode talks about psychological impacts of chronic illness and ways to deal with it. It highlights that:-

  • A Chronic Illness is a medical condition that lasts for a long time, months or years, and which usually cannot be cured completely. 
  • The impact of the chronic illness depends on the kind of illness
  • Coping with chronic illness includes both the physiological aspects of the coping as well as with the motivational and psychological distress it causes. 
  • Not indulging in negative ruminations or catastrophic thinking and trying not to think too much about the illness would actually help to cope with it better.
  • It is better to find new meaning in life by focusing on personal growth, newer pursuit which is possible.
  • Family support can give a meaning to life and provide positivism and optimism thereby reducing distress levels.
  • Those people who think positively will be able to recover faster from it as compared to others.

 

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Episode 60

Caregiver’s Stress

 

Telecast Date: 23rd June, 2012 
Guest Expert: Mr.Suneel Vatsyayan

 

This episode discusses the problems and issues faced by Caregivers – those who provide care and support persons who are ill, aging, disabled or unable to look after themselves. Some highlights of the episode are:-

  • Caregiver’s role is very challenging and makes them prone to physical and mental illnesses. 
    Care giving can be very rewarding at the same time extremely demanding. 
  • Many caregivers are middle aged who are both caring for their elderly parents as well as raising their own children, so this is usually a double challenge. 
  • It is seen that psychologically they are more prone to stress, anxiety and depression. 
  • Care givers will be able to cope better emotionally if they try and avoid indulging in negative emotional states like guilt, anger, frustration etc. as these can deplete them of their enthusiasm and energies. 
  • When they feel stressed out or depressed they use positive self talk to deflect negative feelings or use distraction strategies.
  • Caregivers need to take as good care of their health as they do for others. 
  • Caregivers need to reach out to friends and the extended family to mobilize help and support so that they are able to take some break and much needed rest.

 

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Episode 61

Occupational Stress and Burnout

 

Telecast Date: 30th June, 2012 
Guest Expert: Ms. Madhumati Singh

 

This episode deals with the Occupational stress and ‘Burnout’ that people face in their work-lives which come in the form of stressful physical environments in the workplace, interpersonal tensions with people at work, and work schedules. It discusses some useful tips on relieving work stress. It highlights that:

  • One must understand that work is only one aspect of one’s life and not the entire life.
  • It is important to prioritize one’s responsibilities and stick to time schedule to meet deadlines.
  • One should focus one’s effort on doing their work well so that one does not get pulled into wasting time and energy defending oneself if people try to pull one down.
  • Our workplace can be a place to build relationships, not just a place to earn money. 
  • At least on weekends, one should try to take out some time for one’s family and oneself also and indulge in relaxing activities. 
  • To avoid negativity in performance evaluation, it must be ensured that one works on one’s skills to improve oneself.
  • If one is completely dissatisfied with one’s job, there is no need to punish oneself by sticking to it; changing jobs looking for alternatives is always an option that is available.

 

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Episode 62

Aging and Mental Health

 

Telecast Date: 7th July, 2012 
Guest Expert: Dr.Ashima Nehra Wadhawan

 

This episode talks about the various psychological and mental health problems that affects the older people, how to recognize when there is one, and discusses ways to deal with them. Important information shared in the episode is:-

  • One needs to prepare for one’s old age in all aspects- physical, mental, financial, social and spiritual. 
  • The elderly need to be socially active, spend time with their family, friends and especially their grandchildren.
  • Some changes in mental functioning are common during old age due to a normal aging process. So, one’s should not panic, rather get an evaluation done by specialist and if necessary take timely treatment if there are signs of some serious problems.
  • Losing memory or increasing difficulties in remembering in old age is the sign of Dementia, which is a brain disease that is progressive and generally incurable.
  • Dementia and Depression are the two main problems that affect the health of the elderly that negatively impacts their quality of life. 
  • Positive lifestyle with good nutrition, exercise, sleep and rest, mental and social activity, can help avoid the physical and mental illness and helps to overcome their negative effects as well. 
  • Early identification, proper and adequate treatment and support are key to complete functional recovery from mental problems in older persons. 
  • Older people can continue to be active and participative and contribute richly to the family and society and not consider themselves as ‘retired’ or spent forces.

 

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Episode 63

Memory Impairment and Dementia

 

Telecast Date: 14th July, 2012 
Guest Expert: Dr. Manjari Tripathi

 

This episode deals with the issues of Memory impairment and Dementia. Is losing memory a sign of old age? This episode talks about the correct ways of recognizing memory loss and taking care of people with dementia and memory impairment. Some salient points of the episode are:-

  • Memory loss is quite a common in old age that varies to a different degree in different people. This is due to a normal aging process.
  • At times, Depression and Anxiety can be a cause of memory loss as these emotions can interfere with the brain’s capacity to function adequately.
  • Healthy diet, sleep, lifestyles, physical and mental exercises, meditation and yoga helps to arrest memory loss in the elderly.
  • The elderly need to keep themselves socially active, spend time with people of their own age and interests. 
  • Thyroid dysfunction can also the cause memory loss which generally more prevalent in women.
  • Cerebral stroke or damage to the brain can lead to dementia which is generally of a reversible kind and lead to full recovery.
  • Alzheimer’s disease is a form of true dementia, which is irreversible, deteriorating condition which can be only partially treated by slowing down the process.
  • The family has a major role to play in the care-giving process in dementia which can be extremely demanding on them. .

 

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Episode 64:

Elder Abuse

 

Telecast Date: 21st July, 2012
Guest Expert: Dr Mala Kapur Shankardass

 

This episode talks about the issues related to abuse of the elderly. The stresses that the elderly face when living with their family that arise due to differences in view points and lifestyles and lack of care and attention from the family members or even direct abuse are some of the things this episode explores: 

  • Elder abuse is a form of domestic violence or family violence. Abuse can take place in overt obvious forms as physical assault, or in more subtle forms such as emotional abuse or neglect. 
  • Sometimes family members start feeling that the elderly are a burden on their coping resources and thus vent out their feelings of frustration on them. 
  • Nowadays it is difficult to expect too much from one’s family members to be cared and looked after in their aging years. 
  • The elderly need to prepare for their old age in all aspects- physical, mental, financial, social and spiritual also.
  • It is important for elderly to keep some assets for their own use, so they can be financially comfortable and without having to be completely dependent on their children. 
  • The elderly should be aware of their legal rights and keep track of financial matters. 
  • It is important to seek professional help to tackle personal psychological issues that results in abusive behavior towards elderly family member. 
  • Taking care of elderly parents is the primary social and legal responsibility of their children.

 

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Episode 65:

Gender Discrimination and Mental Health

 

Telecast Date: 28th July, 2012 
Guest Expert: Dr. Rachana Johri

 

This episode talks about the sensitive issue of gender discrimination. Gender discrimination is a harsh reality even in today’s progressive India- It’s shameful but the true. Some of the salient points that have been brought out are:-

  • In spite of liberalization and globalization influences our society is a witness to gender discrimination of all sorts. 
  • Boys and girls both are equally important for the society; parents need to change their own attitude and perceptions about girl child. 
  • Education is equally important for both. Girls and boys should be treated in the same way in all spheres of life. 
  • Early discrimination against girls and women can lead to psychological vulnerability later on in life.
  • Women are 3 times more prone to psychological disorders such as depression and anxiety compared to men. 
  • Women are also quite prone to psychosomatic ailments, wherein mental distress leads to worsening of physical ailments. 
  • Violence and aggression against women have to be stemmed out vigorously by our society. We are responsible for the change we want to see in our society. 
  • The Government of India has introduced new legislations to deal with gender discrimination that needs to be implemented vigorously.

 

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Episode 66

Single Parenting

 

Telecast Date: 4th August, 2012 
Guest Expert: Ms Arvinder Kaur

 

Parenting is a major challenge and responsibility in today’s times and it becomes more challenging in the case of a single parent. Being both a father and a mother to a child is not an easy task. This episode focuses on some issues related to single parenting. Some of the important information shared in the episode is:-

  • Parental separation leads to various problems in children.
  • Parents should not pass on their insecurities, anxieties and apprehension onto their children. They should deal with them independently. 
  • Children of single parents can be as healthy and emotionally stable and secure as those from intact families. 
  • Single parents should not get ‘burnt- out’ trying to do everything on their own. It is advisable to mobilize help and support from friends and family.
  • Single parents who are separated or divorcees must be careful not to poison their child’s mind with bitterness, angst or cynicism, especially directed against one’s ex-spouse. They should try and involve the other parent and take his/her inputs regarding the welfare of the child.
  • It is best to discipline the child by role-modeling with one’s own behaviors. Explaining problematic issues to the child with logic rather than unquestionable authority is the best approach.
  • It is best to avoid both under as well as over-involvement in one’s child’s life.
  • Parents should not ever feel ashamed or let their child be ashamed or embarrassed of their single status and not develop an attitude of self pity, either for oneself or for the child.
  • It is important for single parents to leave the past behind and make a fresh start, rebuild a new future that provides security and fresh opportunities for themselves and their children..

 

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Episode 67:

Adoption

 

Telecast Date: 11th August, 2012  
Guest Expert: Dr. Vinita Bhargava

 

This episode talks about the various dimensions of adoption and how it brings with it a lot of doubts and apprehensions, and whether it is a good option at all. Some of the important information shared in the episode are:-

  • It’s very important for those parents seeking adoption are fully prepared to understand the finer nuances of the adoption process. 
  • Before adopting a child, pre adoption counseling should be carried out with prospective adoptee parents.
  • Informally adopted children need to be dealt with as much care and sensitivity as formally adopted children. 
  • If the couple already have other children, it’s important to prepare them also to receive a new sibling into the family. 
  • It is generally seen that around 7 to 9 years are the ages when children can understand the real meaning of being adopted. 
  • Information about adoption should be shared in a sensitive manner backed with a lot of reassurance and emotional support. 
  • It is not necessary that all adopted children go through troubled times or are psychologically distressed. 

 

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Episode 68:

Generation Gap

 

Telecast Date: 18th August, 2012  
Guest Expert: Dr. Neerja Sharma

 

This episode deals with the stresses that are generated within families due to intergenerational clashes and conflicts. It highlights that:-

  • Parents need to listen and understand their children’s problem and talk to them patiently.
    Children need appreciation when they are right. Parents can also learn something from their children.
  • Elders in the family need to discuss and explain what they expect or want from the young ones, rather than imposing their views on them.
  • Two- way communication is required within the family; parents and children should learn to listen even as they talk.
  • Argument is not the solution to generation gap. Children need to understand what their parents want to teach them.
  • Elders cannot control the child’s future; they can only gently guide the child towards it.
  • Open and honest communication is the ideal long term solution to conflicts that starts with small differences between the parents and children.

 

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Episode 69:

Adolescent Sexuality

 

Telecast Date: 25th August, 2012  
Guest Expert: Rituparna Borah

 

This episode deals with Adolescent Sexuality and the issues that arise due to the rapid physical changes and mental/emotional turmoil this stage may bring. It tells us that:-

  • Adolescents and parents need to understand that this is just another stage in life.
  • Parents need to understand that the adolescent is going through physiological as well as psychological changes that are confusing for him/her. They should try to help them though these difficult times. 
  • It is helpful if adolescents can be guided to prepare themselves physically as well as emotionally for this age.
  • One must understand that the body will develop sexually with age and so will one’s priorities and responsibilities. These are the normal changes everyone has to go through.
  • Adolescents should overcome their feelings of embarrassment or hesitation, and share their concerns with friends and family and seek their help when needed.
  • Parents need to understand that talking about sexuality is not immoral or wrong.
  • Teenagers are mature enough to know about sexuality. Providing inadequate or incorrect information may create agony in their future life. 
  • In order to disseminate correct information on sexuality related matters proper programs on sex education need to be planned by schools and other institutions.

 

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Episode 70:

Bullying and Ragging

 

Telecast Date: 1st September, 2012  
Guest Expert: Dr. Ruchi Seth

 

Ragging and Bullying are two prominent stressors that children and students face in their school and college environments that leave lasting scars on the person. The highlights of this episode are:

  • Ragging is a form of Bullying. It is a form of social violence prevalent in educational institutions across the world.
  • Differently- abled, sick and vulnerable children are soft targets and get bullied easily. 
  • If the child is getting bullied regularly it may affect his studies, cause emotional distress and even affect his personality development eventually. 
  • Many child victims of bullying grow up to develop psychopathology in their adulthood, if not dealt with. 
  • Both the child getting bullied as well as the bully may have psychological problems that need to be addressed. 
  • If the problem is not addressed in time, it can lead to negative attention seeking behavior in the child.
  • Ragging at times can turn violent and vindictive and lead to severe mental distress in the victim or to a psychological breakdown.
  • Educational institutions need to have a zero tolerance policy towards Ragging and Bullying.
  • Anti ragging committees have especially been introduced in the universities and colleges to control the ragging activities.

 

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Episode 71:

Social Anxiety

 

Telecast Date: 8th September, 2012  
Guest Expert: Dr. Shruti Kalra

 

Many people particularly adolescents and youth are victims of anxiety in social situations. This episode talks about social anxiety in detail, discussing ways to overcome it. Important information shared in the episode is:

  • The worry and tension that interferes with the productivity of our day to day life is called anxiety. 
  • Social anxiety occurs in those who particularly feel very apprehensive and tense in social events like parties, in facing large groups of people, get-togethers or performing in front of an audience. It leads to avoidance behaviors.
  • At some point social anxiety causes harm to both our physical as well as mental health. Extended and consistent worrying even due to external factors is harmful to our health. 
  • Using negative coping methods like smoking, drinking, overeating etc to cope with stress of social anxiety only cause further harm to our health.
  • Past experiences tend to shape our reactions to future situations in life. Social anxiety is usually acquired through past negative experiences involving social situations. 
  • Criticizing the child publicly by parents or teachers may lead to Social anxiety.
  • To overcome anxiety, it is extremely important to look inwards and understand the reason behind it. 
  • Social anxiety can be tackled with training in social skills and psychological counseling.
  • Families can be of great support in a helping individuals deal with their anxiety.
  • Yoga, meditation, regular exercise etc are a few positive methods to cope with anxiety. In extreme cases short term medication may be recommended.

 

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Episode 72:

School Refusal

 

Telecast Date: 15th September, 2012  
Guest Expert: Dr Kavita Arora

 

In this episode we highlight issues related to why children refuse to go to school and the problems they may face in their school environment which may be leading to school avoidance. Some of the important aspects discussed in the episode are: 

  • Parents need to talk to their child and explore the reasons why he/she refuses to go to school and resolve it vigilantly.
  • There are many reasons why a child may be avoiding school that may arise directly from stress in the school environment or indirectly reflecting some stress at home.
  • Severe and abnormal anxiety about leaving the secure confines of home and parents is one of the frequent manifestations of school refusal.
  • Abuse, bullying, punitive teachers, academic stresses, negative peer relationships, are some of the commonest reasons for school refusal due to school-related factors. 
  • Forcefully sending school- refusers to school affects the child’s mental condition and may also increase their anxiety. 
  • If it is not addressed in a timely manner it can become a serious issue, and could affect the child’s personality in the future. 
  • Home environment should be peaceful and relaxed and non stressful, so that the child is able leave home without any anxieties.
  • Psychological counseling and behavior modification techniques can help the child overcome the problem of school refusal.
  • With the help of a school counselor and teachers, parents can resolve the problems of their child’s school refusal.

 

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Episode 73:

Examination Stress

 

Telecast Date: 22nd September, 2012  
Guest Expert: Dr. Roma Kumar

 

Stress due to tests or exams are one of the commonest problems facing students today. This episode deals with the examination stress and its various dimensions and highlights the following aspects:-

  • Children face too much expectation from their parents as well as from themselves and their teachers to excel in exams that induces severe stress in them.
  • Sometimes parents create undue pressure on their children to excel without realizing it.
  • Parents need to stay connected with their children’s problems and difficulties, and try to listen to them patiently.
  • Parents need to realize that each child has his/her own capabilities and limitations and keep constantly encouraging them rather then demoralize them.
  • Recognizing the child’s potential and then guiding them towards it is important.
  • Children can handle exam stress and anxiety by developing effective study skills and healthy habits. 
  • Relaxation techniques like Deep breathing, Visualization, Meditation and Yoga helps to helps to reduce the anxiety and improve concentration levels. 
  • Parents should themselves learn to be more relaxed and not pass on their anxieties to their children.

 

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Episode 74:

School Mental Health

 

Telecast Date: 29th September, 2012  
Guest Expert: Dr. Jitendra Nagpal

 

This episode talks about the issue of mental health of children in the context of the school environment. Sometimes a child’s mental illness can manifest first in the school environment because of some reason and that can be identified and resolved there. Some points discussed in the episode are:

  • It is a wrong perception that only the mentally disturbed children should go to the school counselor for help.
  • In our country10 % and 15% children are suffering from some kind of mental illnesses. 
  • Mental illnesses do not occur because of lack of will-power. Those who are suffering from mental illnesses are considered dangerous only because of lack of proper awareness on the issue. 
  • Sometimes psychological and social factors that arise in the school may be responsible for psychological distress in a child. 
  • Negative factors at home can also affect the child’s performance or behaviors in school to which the teachers need to be sensitized.
  • With the help of the school counselor a mentally disturbed child can be counseled and brought back to normal functioning.
  • Recovered child can actually be more sensitive to the needs of other children.
  • Parents need to be alert and talk to their children patiently to try and understand their problems. 
  • With the help of a school counselor, teachers, and school authorities, parents can resolve the problems of their child occurring at school. 
  • Parents, teachers, counselors and school authorities have to all work in a coordinated manner to make school and academics an enjoyable and rewarding experience.

 

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Episode 75:

Assertiveness Training

 

Telecast Date: 5th October, 2012  
Guest Expert: Dr.Ameeta Parsuram

 

This episode talks about the importance of Assertiveness as a social skill and as an effective form of communication in building harmonious relationships. Important aspects discussed in the episode are: 

  • People use different styles of communication to express their negative feelings. Some are overtly Aggressive and disrespectful; some are Passive and suppress their feeling or unable to express them; some are Assertive and find the right way to express their mind, in the right manner. 
  • Passive persons are more emotionally vulnerable as compared to others and they are more prone to depression. Research shows that Passive people are lacking in self confidence.
  • Aggressive persons suffer more from psychosomatic problems as their hostile feelings have a negative impact on their body. Aggressive behaviors become a part of one’s personality that needs to be controlled. 
  • It is important to think carefully before talking to others and always whether it is the time is right to speak. 
  • One should have the right to judge one’s own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for them and their consequences upon oneself. 
  • Assertive people are confident and generally relaxed. There are respectful of other’s rights while respecting their own. 
  • At work, home or socially, being assertive is important. It is the basis for building harmonious relationships. 
  • It is important to identify and understand your own personality and communication style, and if required work to change it to an Assertive style for better social functioning. Assertiveness can be learnt and practiced as a skill.

 

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Episode 76:

Anger Management

 

Telecast Date: 12th October, 2012  
Guest Expert: Ms. Avneet Kaur

 

This episode deals with Anger Management. It discusses how antagonism and anger can affect a person’s physical, mental and social health. It gives useful tips on managing one’s negative emotions and aggressive behavior. Important aspects discussed in the episode are: 

  • If one loses one’s temper, more often than not, then that would not only affect one’s physical well being, but will also have an adverse effect on one’s mind and body. 
  • Excessive irritation can physically and mentally drain a person. They can sap the energy required to handle an adverse situations. 
  • One should check the reason for one’s negative feelings to see whether it is an external situation, person or oneself that is causing.
  • We are not born with anger or aggression, but sometimes the society and the circumstances predisposes us to develop angry behavior patterns to situations. 
  • It helps to distract oneself from one’s anger. Keeping our mind and body actively involved in something constructive or in activities that we enjoy to gives us a break and help to vent out anger.
  • One should learn and develop acceptance for oneself and for situations.
  • We should make the effort to solve our issues and manage our aggressive behaviors for a healthier, happier life.
  • Learning to forgive - forgiveness for others as well as for oneself is an important way of resolving anger in the long run.

 

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Episode 77:

Personality Development

 

Telecast Date: 19th October, 2012  
Guest Expert: Dr N.K.Chadha

 

This episode deals with how we can develop our personality. Our personality and outlook actually determines whether we are successful in life. Some of the salient aspects discussed in the episode are:

  • Personality formation begins usually during childhood but can be developed, shaped and modified through any age.
  • If the problem behavior is not addressed in time, it can lead to negative attention seeking behavior in the child. 
  • Personality development problems in childhood can lead to conduct disorders and personality disorders in adolescence.
  • It’s true that external aspects of personality are important, but inner confidence and self-esteem makes us to perform well in front of everyone. 
  • It is important to have confidence in oneself, ignore negative criticism and comments from others and not doubt oneself.
  • A balance between positive and negative traits helps to improve our personality.
  • You can change aspects of your personality if you work consciously. It is not a constant entity.
     
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Episode 78:

Resilience and Coping

 

Telecast Date: 26th October, 2012  
Guest Expert: B. K. Shivani

 

This episode deals with individuals’ capacity to deal with stresses and adversities one faces during their life. It highlights that every situation can have many possibilities and one can learn from up and downs of life. Some of the things the episode tells us are:

  • Parents play a huge role by modeling resilient thinking patterns themselves and providing buffers for stress coping of their children. 
  • Parents must not try to over-protect their child from life’s difficulties and upsets. This undermines their resilience. 
  • The best part is that research also shows that resilient thinking patterns can be learned.
  • Resilient persons are able to find out the key to their problems and come out from all the troubles easily and quickly.
  • Parents should instill in their children a sense or self-worth and self confidence and teach them to ignore negative comments and not doubt oneself. 
  • We are not alone in this journey, so we should feel free to ask for support from our family and friends.
  • You cannot change your past experiences but you can be better prepared to face the same situation in the future.
  • We should remember, bad times do not last for ever and recall the dictum “This too shall pass”.
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